Ever have one of those periods in your life where things just seem to be going all to shit? You know, when it seems like thing after thing goes wrong and honestly, all hell seems to be breaking loose? That’s the way things have been happening to us lately. It was turning into a no-good-very-bad week.
It all started when the cat died. ok, that was a few weeks ago, but we’re still in a tailspin from that. Then my car broke down, and I had to have to towed, on a scary rainy day. My son has an hour commute to classes at Community College and I was freaking out about getting him back and forth to class. Then, the next day, my refrigerator broke. It was 10 years old and I knew it wasn’t going to be an easy (or cheap) fix. Of course, we were broke. And I was on week 3 of a tummy bug that had me weak, exhausted and just feeling like crap. I was overwhelmed, friends and honestly ready to just crawl into bed, pull up the covers and just binge YouTube Videos and make it all go away.
So I did.
I got home, told my family that they were on their own for dinner and went into my room. I pulled on my cozy jammies, gathered my puppies and kitties, climbed into my bed and put on the TV. I watch Cast Irom Pan videos and Whippoorwill Holler recipe videos and then binged some Glee. I tuned everyone out and simply shut down and took care of myself for the night. I was overwhelmed and lamenting that my world had gone to shit and I wasn’t sure if I could take much more. I slept.
However, the next morning, I got up, made myself a cup of coffee, and changed my attitude.
Yeah, things had gotten shitty, but I had plenty of toilet paper.
The good kind. You know the thick, puffy, strong stuff that wipes away all the crap and leaves you fresh and clean. I had to flush all that negativity away- So I did!
I counted my many blessings- the fact that we had Allstate Motor Club and they towed my car an hour away at no extra cost to me. We had a super kind tow truck driver. I was with my daughter who is always so supportive. My husband’s first words when I called him to say my car broke down was “Where are you? I’ll come to get you”. We didn’t break down in the mountains with no breaks, or in an area with no service. We made it home and I have internet and pets to snuggle, an amazing husband to rub my back and tell me that it’s gonna be ok, and my amazing kids to bring me tea when I’m feeling sorry for myself.
I was able to go shopping for a new fridge right away when we decided that it would be cheaper to replace than repair. It was delivered the same day- they even beat me home with my new one! Hell even though I threw out 5 bags of food, I was able to clean out the fridge and freezer.
I had multiple friends offer me the use of their cars while mine was out of commission. I had a few offers of loans of money. Many people reached out asking how they could help. My husband was able to sell some of his records to help pay for some of the unexpected expenses.
My tribe is the Charmin of people!
I had the realization that I have the BEST friends. I was stranded on the pot, and they rallied with lots of toilet paper! It sounds funny, but it’s true. You have to be aware of when you are down and out it’s ok to take time to do whatever you have to do to take care of yourself. It’s also important to accept help when your people offer. I have a very hard time asking for or accepting help, but I’m learning that it’s okay.
How do you handle a spate of bad luck?