Of all the things I thought I’d do in my lifetime, I never thought I’d be writing an anti bullying blog. Then, I nearly lost my teen daughter to suicide after being she was bullied mercilessly.
I felt helpless, hopeless, and enraged.
I want to help other parents who are feeling the same way by sharing what I know, and what worked for me.
My daughter is Ally, and she writes LoserGurl, now AllyDelMonte.com She has her story, and you can read it on her blog. This blog isn’t about her. It’s about how I learned of the extent of her bullying, and how I helped her. It’s how I’m helping my 12 year old son deal with bullying. Its about helping other parents to protect our children. It’s also about how I coped, as a mother with the pain my children were, and still do endure.
Bullying is a very real, very common, almost epidemic problem. It’s not a problem that is local to any one place, but is global. It’s everywhere from schools to sports to church and anywhere you look. Bullying has changed from when “we were kids”. I was bullied as a child. I was “that kid” that was the butt of every joke, the last kid picked, always, never invited to parties, and pretty much shunned. However, once the last bell rang, I went home and was able to get away from it. The bullying stayed at the schoolyard, and home was a safe haven. It’s different for today’s generation. They have no way to escape. Cyber-bullying is rampant and even though our kids might be able to turn off a phone, or a computer, the hate is still there when they power up again.
We need to help stop bullying where it beings. In our homes. I am not a professional. I am a mom who has lived, and is still living through parenting her children through bullying. I may not have all the answers, but I will share what I know. We need to stand up for our kids and help end bullying.
I promised my children, I will always be an Anti-bullying Mom.
I will be here to protect my son and daughter when they need me. I want to be here for other parents when they need help when their children are in trouble.
If you are going through the hell is your child being bullied, please know you are not alone.