Wanted: A Friend


In a world where you can find pretty much anything you need online, I wondered if I could find something I am seeking: Friends.  I mean IRL or ‘in real life friends’.  I have lots of on-line friend and I love and cherish them, but there is something about a friend you can meet for coffee, have dinner with, or or with whom you can just simply hang out.  With my best friend moving away last week, I’ve been giving a lot of thought about friends. In particular, how few in real life friends I have. What do I do? How do I fix it? How do I make friends in this disconnected world?  If people can find their life mates online, surely I can find a friend or two?  Wouldn’t it be great  if there was a Friend.com, like Match.com, where you could go and hopefully find a new friends?  If there were, I’d totally place an ad, like this:

WantedConnecticut forty-something, happily married mother of two children-  a tween and a teen, seeks female Friends. Should have at least average intelligence and above average wit.  Must be willing to receive texts, phone calls, Facebook messages at any time and be able to share support and humor for whatever crisis is current.  Must be available for coffee, hikes, shopping trips, workouts, or drinks/dinner out on occasion. Interest in socializing with family, dinners out and home potlucks and pizza delivery nights because we’re having too much fun to cook appreciated. A love of Clean Eating is good, as is the unmistakable desire to simple enjoy McDonald’s French fries on occasion. Must be willing to share a cup of sugar, a cup of tea, or a glass of wine, as well as a hug as the situation calls.  Must like cats and dogs, and tolerate cat hair. SAHM’s a plus, but definitely not required. Lover of all things Zombies and The Walking Dead preferable, but not necessary.   I do not discriminate based on age, height, weight, race, clothes, bad hair days, face wrinkles, messy living rooms, unruly children, or dirty vehicles. You’ll get a true, honest, real life friend who will always be there for you, to have your back, and is prepared to be a friend for life.

Although I live in a real neighborhood surround by people, there are a lot of days I feel alone.  It’s a different “alone” than being stuck at home with little kids.  My kids are 12.5 and 16, and we’re past the point of  where “your friends are the parents of your kids friends” stage. The very simple truth is that I am lonely, and I don’t know how to make friends here.  Whether its due to the New England mentality  of where we live, my role as a stay at home mom, and teacher to my kids, I find myself longing for more friends. As someone who has always been surrounded by friends, and usually makes friends easily, this really upsetting to me. I’ve already decided to do “Soup nights” at our house to see if that would help us become closer to people, but boy, it would be great to post an ad like this somewhere!  In fact, it would be great to answer an ad like that. If you were to write a “friend” as, what would it say?

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