Do you know the signs of bullying? Have you ever noticed something is “off” with your child and you aren’t sure what it is. You wonder, could my child be suffering from bullying? Here are 10 signs your child is being bullied.
Do you notice any of these signs in your child?
- Doesn’t want to go to school or other activities. When your child fights you about going to school other activities, that is a warning sign that something is going on. Over 160,000 kids miss school EVERY DAY sue to bullying.
- Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness, lots of trips to the school nurse. Stress and worry of being bullied can cause many physical ailments. Getting sick and being send home helps avoid the bullies. Going to the nurse at specific times to avoid classes, lunch or recess with bullies is common.
- Avoiding or afraid of riding the school bus. Nearly 10 Percent of bullying happens on a school bus. Drivers are there to DRIVE,and get kids safely back and forth to school. Buses hold many more kids than a classroom, and most buses not having extra supervision, they can be a beating ground for bullies.
- Having difficulty sleeping, cries self to sleep, nightmares.
- Changes in typical behavior: Appears anxious, depressed, withdrawn, sad, moody, angry, or talks about being lonely. Sudden drop in grades. When your normally sweet,calm,happy child changes in MARKED way, you need to wonder why, and talk to your child, or his teachers to see if you can find out what is causing the change. It may just be hormones, and growing up, or it may not be. It is, however, a wake up sign that something is going on.
- Avoiding social situations, sudden loss of friends or not wanting to be with the usual group of friends. When kids have been friends for years, and suddenly stop coming around, or your child refuses to go to the youth group or club that he used to enjoy, that is a sign that something is wrong. Most kids avoid their bullies and the places they hang out.
- Becoming upset or withdrawn after receiving a text or being on the computer. Cyber bullying is a huge form of bullying that has a big impact on kids. Overseeing your child’s social media accounts,and having passwords and your child know you will be checking is key.
- Clothes, toys, books, electronic items are damaged, missing or “lost” without explanation. Sometimes, bullies take treasured items away from their victims to show how powerful they are.
- Unexplained marks, cuts, bruises and scrapes. Physical bullying often leaves marks. Watch for them.
- Talks about feeling helpless or about suicide; self harms, runs away. Watch for the classic signs of suicide. also pay attention your child’s body, wearing long sleeves and pants in hot weather, (to hide cutting). Running away may seem to be the only way to escape the bullying, other than suicide.
You may think that your child would come to you if they were being bullied, but the sad truth is not all kids do. Being bullied raises all kinds of feeling in kids. Many times they are trying to “grow up” and be their own person, and they feel they need to handle it on their own. They may feel humiliated by the bullying, or think that they are causing it and they’d get in trouble. Or they may think that being bullied woudl be perceived as weak and they would be a disappointment to their parents.
You should let them know that bulling isn’t their fault, and shouldn’t ever be tolerated. and most importantly, that they should come to you if they are bullied. Let them know you are there to help them.
When my daughter was bullied, I had no idea of the extent of it until years later. She did, however show many of the signs of bullying that I missed. Now that I know what to look for, I was able to see signs of it and address it when it happened to my son. I’m glad I know what to look for now.
Everything on the list doesn’t mean your child is being bullied. It does mean you need to pay attention, because the possibility is there.
Have you seem symptoms of bullying in your child? What have you done about it?