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May 14, 2015
It’s getting hot out, and my Facebook feed has been full of Mama’s asking what’s allowed at school for girls to wear, and what’s not. As I read the answers there are always the post of people freaking out that girls are getting in trouble for wearing booty shorts, sleeveless tops, and sharing quotes like:
My answer to that is enforcing a dress code isn’t harassment. It’s enforcing a rule . Number one, I agree 100% that the female bodies have been turned into a sexualized object. There is no argument there, at all. Just the thought of the backlash over someone seeing a little side boob while breast feeding while bulging boobs in push-up bras can be found, giant sized in the window of any Victoria’s Secret makes me crazy. But telling girls they can’t wear short shorts or halter tops to school isn’t violating her rights. It teaching her there is a right and wrong place to wear certain clothing. We’ve become so focused nowadays on “My rights are being violated and if I’m not getting what I want, I’m going to make a HUGE deal out of it” that we’ve gotten a bit silly. You are NOT ENTITLED TO WEAR WHATEVER YOU WANT, WHENEVER YOU WANT. Period. End of Subject. Rules are rules, and the thing is we all have to follow them.
If I were to read a dress code that treated boys and girls differently, I’d be the first one calling foul. But for the most part, what I am reading is about girls complaining when they can’t wear what they want, regardless of the dress code. Pretty much all the dress codes are alike. In our school district, the rules are the same. There is NO differentiating between males and females:
Blouses/Shirts: Blouses/shirts should be constructed so that the tops of the shoulders are covered. Blouses/shirts will not allow exposure of any portion of the waist, hips, midriff, or exposure of the chest.
Skirts/Shorts/Dresses/Pants: Skirts, shorts, and dresses should have hemlines that are mid-thigh. (Mid-thigh is defined as: while holding arms down at one’s side, the mid-thigh is at the end of the finger tips.). With safety as our primary concern, pants should be worn to stay close to the waist; undergarments should be completely covered.
Attire: Attire that displays indecent language, pictures or symbols that contain sexual references, or that advertise or encourage the use of drugs, tobacco products, alcoholic beverages are prohibited. Messages of violence or gang allegiance are prohibited. Pajamas, slippers and other lounging attire are not allowed.
In other words, these are the clothing rules that they deem acceptable for their school for BOTH MALES AND FEMALES. It’s the atmosphere they want to maintain at their school. I wouldn’t let my daughter OR my son wear clothing that was too short or showed their shoulders, not because it shows off their bodies, but because I want them to learn about real life and how to follow rules. Girls are just as cool in mid-thigh length shorts as the boys are. Shorter doesn’t mean cooler. It means shorter. The dress codes don’t say “shorts for boys but no shorts for girls” they say the same thing: appropriate length shorts for both sexes.
If you think I’m saying “don’t wear booty shorts, or crop tops, or mini skirts or any type of revealing clothing”, I’m not ! It doesn’t phase me when I see people dressed in shorter clothing. I’m not slut shaming or saying it wrong to wear them ON THEIR OWN TIME. I love seeing how different people express their individuality with their clothing styles when they are appropriate. When you’re on your own time ,you deem what’s appropriate. When your on someone else’s clock, they get to call the shots.
It’s all about dressing appropriately for the place you are. Here’s the thing, school is basically work for kids. It’s their ‘place of employment’, and most jobs have dress codes. When I go into my Doctors office, the staff and the doctors are all dressed appropriately for that office. When I go into my local grocery store, everyone is dresses similarly. Simply because it’s high school doesn’t, or shouldn’t get you special privileges on how to dress. That sure as hell doesn’t happen when you enter the work force. You are not entitled to wear what you want, when you want. You may look banging’ in your mini skirt and crop top, but I’m pretty sure you can’t show up to work at an office in them. You damn sure can’t complain to your boss that he’s being sexist and he’s wrong if he reprimands or disciplines you and tell him you should be able to wear whatever you want. Well, you can , but it won’t get you a free pass, it will probably get you a pink slip. Rules are rules. Dress according to the rules, and you’ll be fine.
It’s not sexist, it’s life.
Filed Under: Life Wendy 54 Comments
Carolann says May 14, 2015 at 11:54 am Agreed! It was so easy back in the day when we all had uniforms in school. You said it best, it’s about respecting the rules! Reply Wendy says May 14, 2015 at 12:14 pm I don’t think that we have to have uniforms, (but ti would be WAY easier!) but, it seems to me taht everytime someone is told “no” nowadays, they pitch a fit and say they’re entitled to so what they want. Reply
Carolann says
May 14, 2015 at 11:54 am
Agreed! It was so easy back in the day when we all had uniforms in school. You said it best, it’s about respecting the rules!
Wendy says May 14, 2015 at 12:14 pm I don’t think that we have to have uniforms, (but ti would be WAY easier!) but, it seems to me taht everytime someone is told “no” nowadays, they pitch a fit and say they’re entitled to so what they want. Reply
Wendy says
May 14, 2015 at 12:14 pm
I don’t think that we have to have uniforms, (but ti would be WAY easier!) but, it seems to me taht everytime someone is told “no” nowadays, they pitch a fit and say they’re entitled to so what they want.
Diane says May 14, 2015 at 12:04 pm Yes, agree that dress codes need to be enforced. Reply
Diane says
May 14, 2015 at 12:04 pm
Yes, agree that dress codes need to be enforced.
Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says May 14, 2015 at 1:07 pm School is no place for skin to be showing and those dress codes DO need to be enforced. I don’t know why girls want to dress like that anyways….how about some modesty. Reply hayley says October 19, 2018 at 4:26 am its called hot weather robin, im sure you dress with shorts and a less than 3” shoulder shirt when its 80 or so degrees outside. Reply Mark says January 13, 2020 at 11:51 pm Except kids at school are inside an air-conditioned building for at least 90% of their day, and even if they weren’t, you don’t need short-shorts and spaghetti straps to stay cool. I grew up in coastal Texas, it was hot until late October, and then again starting early May. We weren’t even allowed to wear shorts when I was going to school, and somehow we survived. Mostly it was nice to have long pants to keep us warm in the air conditioning. Reply user says June 3, 2020 at 8:03 pm For me, the school dress code had a section for girls and one for boys. The one for girls said that you can’t show any cleavage, shoulders, midriff, back, or stomach. For bottoms, you may not wear leggings unless the shirt reaches your fingertips. You also can’t wear any skirts, shorts, or dresses unless they reach your fingertips. We also can’t show any undergarments. For boys, they can’t show undergarments and have to be wearing a shirt. For everyone, you can’t have anything inappropriate on your clothes and you have to wear shoes. The dress code was basically saying that women should be ashamed of their bodies and have to cover up. See how sexist that is? Reply
Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says
May 14, 2015 at 1:07 pm
School is no place for skin to be showing and those dress codes DO need to be enforced. I don’t know why girls want to dress like that anyways….how about some modesty.
hayley says October 19, 2018 at 4:26 am its called hot weather robin, im sure you dress with shorts and a less than 3” shoulder shirt when its 80 or so degrees outside. Reply Mark says January 13, 2020 at 11:51 pm Except kids at school are inside an air-conditioned building for at least 90% of their day, and even if they weren’t, you don’t need short-shorts and spaghetti straps to stay cool. I grew up in coastal Texas, it was hot until late October, and then again starting early May. We weren’t even allowed to wear shorts when I was going to school, and somehow we survived. Mostly it was nice to have long pants to keep us warm in the air conditioning. Reply user says June 3, 2020 at 8:03 pm For me, the school dress code had a section for girls and one for boys. The one for girls said that you can’t show any cleavage, shoulders, midriff, back, or stomach. For bottoms, you may not wear leggings unless the shirt reaches your fingertips. You also can’t wear any skirts, shorts, or dresses unless they reach your fingertips. We also can’t show any undergarments. For boys, they can’t show undergarments and have to be wearing a shirt. For everyone, you can’t have anything inappropriate on your clothes and you have to wear shoes. The dress code was basically saying that women should be ashamed of their bodies and have to cover up. See how sexist that is? Reply
hayley says
October 19, 2018 at 4:26 am
its called hot weather robin, im sure you dress with shorts and a less than 3” shoulder shirt when its 80 or so degrees outside.
Mark says January 13, 2020 at 11:51 pm Except kids at school are inside an air-conditioned building for at least 90% of their day, and even if they weren’t, you don’t need short-shorts and spaghetti straps to stay cool. I grew up in coastal Texas, it was hot until late October, and then again starting early May. We weren’t even allowed to wear shorts when I was going to school, and somehow we survived. Mostly it was nice to have long pants to keep us warm in the air conditioning. Reply user says June 3, 2020 at 8:03 pm For me, the school dress code had a section for girls and one for boys. The one for girls said that you can’t show any cleavage, shoulders, midriff, back, or stomach. For bottoms, you may not wear leggings unless the shirt reaches your fingertips. You also can’t wear any skirts, shorts, or dresses unless they reach your fingertips. We also can’t show any undergarments. For boys, they can’t show undergarments and have to be wearing a shirt. For everyone, you can’t have anything inappropriate on your clothes and you have to wear shoes. The dress code was basically saying that women should be ashamed of their bodies and have to cover up. See how sexist that is? Reply
Mark says
January 13, 2020 at 11:51 pm
Except kids at school are inside an air-conditioned building for at least 90% of their day, and even if they weren’t, you don’t need short-shorts and spaghetti straps to stay cool. I grew up in coastal Texas, it was hot until late October, and then again starting early May. We weren’t even allowed to wear shorts when I was going to school, and somehow we survived. Mostly it was nice to have long pants to keep us warm in the air conditioning.
user says June 3, 2020 at 8:03 pm For me, the school dress code had a section for girls and one for boys. The one for girls said that you can’t show any cleavage, shoulders, midriff, back, or stomach. For bottoms, you may not wear leggings unless the shirt reaches your fingertips. You also can’t wear any skirts, shorts, or dresses unless they reach your fingertips. We also can’t show any undergarments. For boys, they can’t show undergarments and have to be wearing a shirt. For everyone, you can’t have anything inappropriate on your clothes and you have to wear shoes. The dress code was basically saying that women should be ashamed of their bodies and have to cover up. See how sexist that is? Reply
user says
June 3, 2020 at 8:03 pm
For me, the school dress code had a section for girls and one for boys. The one for girls said that you can’t show any cleavage, shoulders, midriff, back, or stomach. For bottoms, you may not wear leggings unless the shirt reaches your fingertips. You also can’t wear any skirts, shorts, or dresses unless they reach your fingertips. We also can’t show any undergarments. For boys, they can’t show undergarments and have to be wearing a shirt. For everyone, you can’t have anything inappropriate on your clothes and you have to wear shoes. The dress code was basically saying that women should be ashamed of their bodies and have to cover up. See how sexist that is?
Cindy @MomMaven says May 14, 2015 at 2:51 pm Exactly, rules are rules. Follow them or get in trouble. If you disagree with the rules there are ways to go about trying to change them but you still need to follow the rules that are in place. Reply
Cindy @MomMaven says
May 14, 2015 at 2:51 pm
Exactly, rules are rules. Follow them or get in trouble. If you disagree with the rules there are ways to go about trying to change them but you still need to follow the rules that are in place.
Jeannette says May 14, 2015 at 5:53 pm I’m of two minds on this. I do think dress codes are important but I’ll be honest and say I struggled with them in high school. I’m almost 6 feet tall so any shorts I wore were always about a half inch short by my school’s dress code – and yes, I did get sent home. I think certain things should be absolutely out but all women’s bodies aren’t the same and saying a dress code that works for an average female works for everyone is a little unfair. Reply Wendy says May 14, 2015 at 8:32 pm I see your point. I am 5’10”, and I have a daughter who is 6’1. And guess what? When she was in school, (we homeschool now) I made sure she had appropriate length clothing. I think there is a huge difference between a girl wanting to wear short shorts and tank tops, and calling it wrong that she can’t, and a girl attempting to follow the rules, and having problems finding the right clothing. Reply
Jeannette says
May 14, 2015 at 5:53 pm
I’m of two minds on this. I do think dress codes are important but I’ll be honest and say I struggled with them in high school. I’m almost 6 feet tall so any shorts I wore were always about a half inch short by my school’s dress code – and yes, I did get sent home. I think certain things should be absolutely out but all women’s bodies aren’t the same and saying a dress code that works for an average female works for everyone is a little unfair.
Wendy says May 14, 2015 at 8:32 pm I see your point. I am 5’10”, and I have a daughter who is 6’1. And guess what? When she was in school, (we homeschool now) I made sure she had appropriate length clothing. I think there is a huge difference between a girl wanting to wear short shorts and tank tops, and calling it wrong that she can’t, and a girl attempting to follow the rules, and having problems finding the right clothing. Reply
May 14, 2015 at 8:32 pm
I see your point. I am 5’10”, and I have a daughter who is 6’1. And guess what? When she was in school, (we homeschool now) I made sure she had appropriate length clothing. I think there is a huge difference between a girl wanting to wear short shorts and tank tops, and calling it wrong that she can’t, and a girl attempting to follow the rules, and having problems finding the right clothing.
Allison says May 14, 2015 at 6:38 pm I totally agree with your stance on this subject! This makes me so happy that we have uniforms for my sons school and brings me back to high school whenever I remember hating the dress code rules! Now, as a parent- I get it. Reply
Allison says
May 14, 2015 at 6:38 pm
I totally agree with your stance on this subject! This makes me so happy that we have uniforms for my sons school and brings me back to high school whenever I remember hating the dress code rules! Now, as a parent- I get it.
Katie says May 14, 2015 at 7:54 pm I don’t completely agree. While I agree from an age standpoint that certain clothes aren’t necessarily appropriate, I also don’t think it’s right to tell a girl they can’t wear something because of the style. I do think it’s sending a bad message to both boys and girls. Reply Wendy says May 14, 2015 at 8:29 pm I think that telling BOTH boys and girls that they have to wear clothing of a certain length is totally appropriate. If they singled out girls, then it would be wrong, but if they expect them BOTH to uphold certain standards, then I think it’s fine. Reply Faith says March 21, 2016 at 12:20 pm The problem that girls have is that they ARE being singled out, for things that boys aren’t. I recently read an article about a girl in high school who was sent home for a skirt that she specifically picked out because of its professionalism, and as she left the buildin, almost in tears, she walked pass another student wearing a shirt with a male stick figure holding a female stick figure’s head to his crotch, with the caption “good girls swallow”, and witnessed teachers walk right past him. Along with that, rules like the leggings/yoga pants code, which bans such pants, are ridiculously sexist and are harassment. It perpetuates rape culture in the fact that girls are told they cannot wear certain things for the sake of their male counterparts. Not only are administrations blaming girls for the lack of restraint of their male counterparts, but they are assuming that the said male counterparts are incapable of practicing self restraint. Along with that, rules outlawing black girls to wear their natural hair, or not being allowed to wear dresses deemed “inappropriate” on site at prom, or not being allowed to wear pants to prom, girls have most definitely drawn the short end of the stick as far as dress codes go. Also, some of the rules you stated above, in many schools, only apply to female students. So yes,dress codes are sexual harassment, because as a girl, I am being conditioned and taught to believe that my adolescent body is little more than a tool that makes sexual deviants of our prized male students, who can do no wrong, and are entitled to coddling and shielding because of their lack of self restraint. Being taught this as early as 11 years old is not fair at all to the female student population. I deserve better. We all deserve better. Reply Wendy says March 31, 2016 at 10:15 am Thanks for your comment. I respectfully disagree. Reply Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:39 pm Could you explain why you disagree? I’d like to know your reasons.I thought Faith’s argument was valid and insightful. What don’t you agree with? Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:33 am You can pick any anecdotal argument about school administrators missing one infraction of a dress code (a vulgar t-shirt) while enforcing a too short skirt, but that one instance isn’t even necessarily typical of how that school usually enforces its dress code, let alone how dress codes in general are enforced across the country. Anecdotal evidence really is one of the weakest arguments. The argument that girls shouldn’t wear certain clothing to avoid distracting boys is a bad one that principals should avoid. What they should focus on is first, that the purpose of schools is to prepare students for life. In every job I have ever had, from waiting tables in college to my professional job now, there have been standards of appropriate dress, and they’ve always been more strict than my high school’s dress code. The other argument principals should focus on is there is in fact parity in dress codes. No one, boy or girl, should be allowed to show midriff. No one, boy or girl, should be showing thigh, neither boys’ shorts nor girls’ dresses should be that short. Shoulders should be covered. This is one area where boys actually get singled out more than girls. Boys can’t even wear muscle shirts, let alone tank tops, while a girl could get away with a sleeveless blouse that shows as much upper arm as a muscle shirt. Sometimes dress codes must “single out” members of one sex for one item due to differences in anatomy or differences in fashion trends, but that doesn’t actually mean they are being sexist against girls. You rail against rules against leggings, claim they are sexist. They aren’t. It’s simply a matter of tight leggings being a fashion item women wear that men do not. If men also wore leggings, you can bet schools would also ban boys from wearing them too. Don’t believe me? Think about how thin tight material would perfectly outline a boy’s testicles and penis (sorry to be so blunt, but I think it was necessary to make my point). And you are so wrapped up in how you think girls like you are being singled out, you don’t consider how boys may be singled out. I went through puberty early, and I have a thick, dark beard. That means I have had to shave every day since 7th grade. Even when I was running late for school, even when it was painful to do so and made my acne look worse. If I tried to skip a day, I would be sent to the principal in first period and made to shave with a cheap disposable razor in cold water (our school bathrooms did not have hot water). So no, you are wrong, school dress codes are NOT sexual harassment, they require both male and female students to cover the same areas of their bodies, and wear appropriate clothing, no more, and actually usually still quite less stringent, than the average professional job. Reply Mark says January 14, 2020 at 12:00 am Are school administrators actually saying that girls have to cover up to keep from distracting boys, or is that just something that’s getting repeated so that people come to believe it? At my child’s school, that claim was being made to argue that the dress code is sexist, yet nobody could find any text in the dress code section of the school handbook that said anything about boys being distracted by girls’ skin, and nobody could actually name any teachers or administrators specifically who had actually said anything like that. In reality, the dress code requires both boys and girls to cover up the same body parts – if anything girls are given more latitude, because they can wear sleeveless shirts as long as the straps are wide enough, but boys are not allowed to wear sleeveless shirts at all. Boys also get singled out for things girls don’t have to worry about – in high school I was sent to the office and forced to shave with a dry razor if I tried to skip even one day of shaving (I started shaving in 7th grade, and already had a thick, dark beard by sophomore year). Reply Rachel Humphrey says September 28, 2017 at 4:05 pm The problem is boys don’t wear shorts… boys don’t wear their shoulders exposed. Boys don’t get tall and thin. My daughter can’t wear shorts to school at all… there is NOTHING at the store for her to wear that is long enough to cover what they want to be covered. her thighs are long. Becuase she shot up and she’s thin. So she wears smaller to fit her waist and the smaller is shorter. She can’t keep up bigger sizes and bigger with a belt or whatever makes her look like a cinch sack. So basically she has to wear pants in 90-degree weather. She hasn’t worn shorts to school since she was in like 5th grade. The regulations are BS. I could understand if she looked Trashy but she doesn’t they are regular shorts. Try teaching boys to be men instead of teaching girls their bodies are made wrong. (that is what my daughter thinks) It makes me mad just thinking about it. Reply Wendy says October 4, 2017 at 3:54 pm Rachel, Boys DO wear shorts. They DO expose their shoulders, they DO get tall and thin. We now homeschool, but at our public school, the rules are the same for boys as for girls. No short shorts, and no tanks for either ones. I’ totally get what you’re saying about your daughter, and that sucks, but it’s more a fashion thing. My daughter is overweight, and shirts ride up on her butt and she couldn’t wear skater skirts if she was in that school, because it would be too short. I think if the rules are the same for everyone, they are fine, but if they are different for boys and girls, then that is the issue. Reply Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:50 am Boys do wear shorts, “Chubbies”, which show quite a lot of thigh, are currently very popular, but forbidden by most school dress codes because of their brevity. Boys wear shoulder-exposing muscle shirts and tank tops – but not at school because they are forbidden to have their shoulders exposed per school dress codes. Boys do get tall and thin. Their t-shirts and polo shirts get too small and start exposing their stomachs, their shorts get too short for them, and that is when it is time to give them away and buy new clothing that fits them. Personally, I think it is a mistake for schools to allow shorts. Kids are inside, in air conditioning for their classes most of the day. Most professional jobs, the kinds kids should be aspiring to, don’t allow shorts. Even industrial jobs don’t allow shorts. Other than college, from birth to now, I have lived my entire life in Houston, Texas, one of the hottest, most humid cities you can live in in this country. The heat index regularly gets over 100 F in the summer. Up until my junior year of high school, we weren’t allowed to wear shorts to school, yet somehow, we survived. I wear long pants every day to work, even in the heat of the summer. As an environmental engineer, sometimes I have to go out to worksites, be outside all day in the summer, taking samples, walking around, even doing heavy labor. Safety regulations require that I wear not only long pants and longsleeved shirts, but they have to be treated with flame retardant chemicals which make them even hotter. So give me a break about your daughter having to wear long pants in air conditioned classrooms on a 90 F day. School dress codes aren’t teaching girls their bodies are made wrong, they are teaching girls and boys that when you come into a place of learning or of business. you dress appropriately. Life isn’t always about coddling children into believing they should be as “comfortable” as possible to a ridiculous extreme in all situations. Reply
Katie says
May 14, 2015 at 7:54 pm
I don’t completely agree. While I agree from an age standpoint that certain clothes aren’t necessarily appropriate, I also don’t think it’s right to tell a girl they can’t wear something because of the style. I do think it’s sending a bad message to both boys and girls.
Wendy says May 14, 2015 at 8:29 pm I think that telling BOTH boys and girls that they have to wear clothing of a certain length is totally appropriate. If they singled out girls, then it would be wrong, but if they expect them BOTH to uphold certain standards, then I think it’s fine. Reply Faith says March 21, 2016 at 12:20 pm The problem that girls have is that they ARE being singled out, for things that boys aren’t. I recently read an article about a girl in high school who was sent home for a skirt that she specifically picked out because of its professionalism, and as she left the buildin, almost in tears, she walked pass another student wearing a shirt with a male stick figure holding a female stick figure’s head to his crotch, with the caption “good girls swallow”, and witnessed teachers walk right past him. Along with that, rules like the leggings/yoga pants code, which bans such pants, are ridiculously sexist and are harassment. It perpetuates rape culture in the fact that girls are told they cannot wear certain things for the sake of their male counterparts. Not only are administrations blaming girls for the lack of restraint of their male counterparts, but they are assuming that the said male counterparts are incapable of practicing self restraint. Along with that, rules outlawing black girls to wear their natural hair, or not being allowed to wear dresses deemed “inappropriate” on site at prom, or not being allowed to wear pants to prom, girls have most definitely drawn the short end of the stick as far as dress codes go. Also, some of the rules you stated above, in many schools, only apply to female students. So yes,dress codes are sexual harassment, because as a girl, I am being conditioned and taught to believe that my adolescent body is little more than a tool that makes sexual deviants of our prized male students, who can do no wrong, and are entitled to coddling and shielding because of their lack of self restraint. Being taught this as early as 11 years old is not fair at all to the female student population. I deserve better. We all deserve better. Reply Wendy says March 31, 2016 at 10:15 am Thanks for your comment. I respectfully disagree. Reply Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:39 pm Could you explain why you disagree? I’d like to know your reasons.I thought Faith’s argument was valid and insightful. What don’t you agree with? Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:33 am You can pick any anecdotal argument about school administrators missing one infraction of a dress code (a vulgar t-shirt) while enforcing a too short skirt, but that one instance isn’t even necessarily typical of how that school usually enforces its dress code, let alone how dress codes in general are enforced across the country. Anecdotal evidence really is one of the weakest arguments. The argument that girls shouldn’t wear certain clothing to avoid distracting boys is a bad one that principals should avoid. What they should focus on is first, that the purpose of schools is to prepare students for life. In every job I have ever had, from waiting tables in college to my professional job now, there have been standards of appropriate dress, and they’ve always been more strict than my high school’s dress code. The other argument principals should focus on is there is in fact parity in dress codes. No one, boy or girl, should be allowed to show midriff. No one, boy or girl, should be showing thigh, neither boys’ shorts nor girls’ dresses should be that short. Shoulders should be covered. This is one area where boys actually get singled out more than girls. Boys can’t even wear muscle shirts, let alone tank tops, while a girl could get away with a sleeveless blouse that shows as much upper arm as a muscle shirt. Sometimes dress codes must “single out” members of one sex for one item due to differences in anatomy or differences in fashion trends, but that doesn’t actually mean they are being sexist against girls. You rail against rules against leggings, claim they are sexist. They aren’t. It’s simply a matter of tight leggings being a fashion item women wear that men do not. If men also wore leggings, you can bet schools would also ban boys from wearing them too. Don’t believe me? Think about how thin tight material would perfectly outline a boy’s testicles and penis (sorry to be so blunt, but I think it was necessary to make my point). And you are so wrapped up in how you think girls like you are being singled out, you don’t consider how boys may be singled out. I went through puberty early, and I have a thick, dark beard. That means I have had to shave every day since 7th grade. Even when I was running late for school, even when it was painful to do so and made my acne look worse. If I tried to skip a day, I would be sent to the principal in first period and made to shave with a cheap disposable razor in cold water (our school bathrooms did not have hot water). So no, you are wrong, school dress codes are NOT sexual harassment, they require both male and female students to cover the same areas of their bodies, and wear appropriate clothing, no more, and actually usually still quite less stringent, than the average professional job. Reply Mark says January 14, 2020 at 12:00 am Are school administrators actually saying that girls have to cover up to keep from distracting boys, or is that just something that’s getting repeated so that people come to believe it? At my child’s school, that claim was being made to argue that the dress code is sexist, yet nobody could find any text in the dress code section of the school handbook that said anything about boys being distracted by girls’ skin, and nobody could actually name any teachers or administrators specifically who had actually said anything like that. In reality, the dress code requires both boys and girls to cover up the same body parts – if anything girls are given more latitude, because they can wear sleeveless shirts as long as the straps are wide enough, but boys are not allowed to wear sleeveless shirts at all. Boys also get singled out for things girls don’t have to worry about – in high school I was sent to the office and forced to shave with a dry razor if I tried to skip even one day of shaving (I started shaving in 7th grade, and already had a thick, dark beard by sophomore year). Reply Rachel Humphrey says September 28, 2017 at 4:05 pm The problem is boys don’t wear shorts… boys don’t wear their shoulders exposed. Boys don’t get tall and thin. My daughter can’t wear shorts to school at all… there is NOTHING at the store for her to wear that is long enough to cover what they want to be covered. her thighs are long. Becuase she shot up and she’s thin. So she wears smaller to fit her waist and the smaller is shorter. She can’t keep up bigger sizes and bigger with a belt or whatever makes her look like a cinch sack. So basically she has to wear pants in 90-degree weather. She hasn’t worn shorts to school since she was in like 5th grade. The regulations are BS. I could understand if she looked Trashy but she doesn’t they are regular shorts. Try teaching boys to be men instead of teaching girls their bodies are made wrong. (that is what my daughter thinks) It makes me mad just thinking about it. Reply Wendy says October 4, 2017 at 3:54 pm Rachel, Boys DO wear shorts. They DO expose their shoulders, they DO get tall and thin. We now homeschool, but at our public school, the rules are the same for boys as for girls. No short shorts, and no tanks for either ones. I’ totally get what you’re saying about your daughter, and that sucks, but it’s more a fashion thing. My daughter is overweight, and shirts ride up on her butt and she couldn’t wear skater skirts if she was in that school, because it would be too short. I think if the rules are the same for everyone, they are fine, but if they are different for boys and girls, then that is the issue. Reply Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:50 am Boys do wear shorts, “Chubbies”, which show quite a lot of thigh, are currently very popular, but forbidden by most school dress codes because of their brevity. Boys wear shoulder-exposing muscle shirts and tank tops – but not at school because they are forbidden to have their shoulders exposed per school dress codes. Boys do get tall and thin. Their t-shirts and polo shirts get too small and start exposing their stomachs, their shorts get too short for them, and that is when it is time to give them away and buy new clothing that fits them. Personally, I think it is a mistake for schools to allow shorts. Kids are inside, in air conditioning for their classes most of the day. Most professional jobs, the kinds kids should be aspiring to, don’t allow shorts. Even industrial jobs don’t allow shorts. Other than college, from birth to now, I have lived my entire life in Houston, Texas, one of the hottest, most humid cities you can live in in this country. The heat index regularly gets over 100 F in the summer. Up until my junior year of high school, we weren’t allowed to wear shorts to school, yet somehow, we survived. I wear long pants every day to work, even in the heat of the summer. As an environmental engineer, sometimes I have to go out to worksites, be outside all day in the summer, taking samples, walking around, even doing heavy labor. Safety regulations require that I wear not only long pants and longsleeved shirts, but they have to be treated with flame retardant chemicals which make them even hotter. So give me a break about your daughter having to wear long pants in air conditioned classrooms on a 90 F day. School dress codes aren’t teaching girls their bodies are made wrong, they are teaching girls and boys that when you come into a place of learning or of business. you dress appropriately. Life isn’t always about coddling children into believing they should be as “comfortable” as possible to a ridiculous extreme in all situations. Reply
May 14, 2015 at 8:29 pm
I think that telling BOTH boys and girls that they have to wear clothing of a certain length is totally appropriate. If they singled out girls, then it would be wrong, but if they expect them BOTH to uphold certain standards, then I think it’s fine.
Faith says March 21, 2016 at 12:20 pm The problem that girls have is that they ARE being singled out, for things that boys aren’t. I recently read an article about a girl in high school who was sent home for a skirt that she specifically picked out because of its professionalism, and as she left the buildin, almost in tears, she walked pass another student wearing a shirt with a male stick figure holding a female stick figure’s head to his crotch, with the caption “good girls swallow”, and witnessed teachers walk right past him. Along with that, rules like the leggings/yoga pants code, which bans such pants, are ridiculously sexist and are harassment. It perpetuates rape culture in the fact that girls are told they cannot wear certain things for the sake of their male counterparts. Not only are administrations blaming girls for the lack of restraint of their male counterparts, but they are assuming that the said male counterparts are incapable of practicing self restraint. Along with that, rules outlawing black girls to wear their natural hair, or not being allowed to wear dresses deemed “inappropriate” on site at prom, or not being allowed to wear pants to prom, girls have most definitely drawn the short end of the stick as far as dress codes go. Also, some of the rules you stated above, in many schools, only apply to female students. So yes,dress codes are sexual harassment, because as a girl, I am being conditioned and taught to believe that my adolescent body is little more than a tool that makes sexual deviants of our prized male students, who can do no wrong, and are entitled to coddling and shielding because of their lack of self restraint. Being taught this as early as 11 years old is not fair at all to the female student population. I deserve better. We all deserve better. Reply Wendy says March 31, 2016 at 10:15 am Thanks for your comment. I respectfully disagree. Reply Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:39 pm Could you explain why you disagree? I’d like to know your reasons.I thought Faith’s argument was valid and insightful. What don’t you agree with? Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:33 am You can pick any anecdotal argument about school administrators missing one infraction of a dress code (a vulgar t-shirt) while enforcing a too short skirt, but that one instance isn’t even necessarily typical of how that school usually enforces its dress code, let alone how dress codes in general are enforced across the country. Anecdotal evidence really is one of the weakest arguments. The argument that girls shouldn’t wear certain clothing to avoid distracting boys is a bad one that principals should avoid. What they should focus on is first, that the purpose of schools is to prepare students for life. In every job I have ever had, from waiting tables in college to my professional job now, there have been standards of appropriate dress, and they’ve always been more strict than my high school’s dress code. The other argument principals should focus on is there is in fact parity in dress codes. No one, boy or girl, should be allowed to show midriff. No one, boy or girl, should be showing thigh, neither boys’ shorts nor girls’ dresses should be that short. Shoulders should be covered. This is one area where boys actually get singled out more than girls. Boys can’t even wear muscle shirts, let alone tank tops, while a girl could get away with a sleeveless blouse that shows as much upper arm as a muscle shirt. Sometimes dress codes must “single out” members of one sex for one item due to differences in anatomy or differences in fashion trends, but that doesn’t actually mean they are being sexist against girls. You rail against rules against leggings, claim they are sexist. They aren’t. It’s simply a matter of tight leggings being a fashion item women wear that men do not. If men also wore leggings, you can bet schools would also ban boys from wearing them too. Don’t believe me? Think about how thin tight material would perfectly outline a boy’s testicles and penis (sorry to be so blunt, but I think it was necessary to make my point). And you are so wrapped up in how you think girls like you are being singled out, you don’t consider how boys may be singled out. I went through puberty early, and I have a thick, dark beard. That means I have had to shave every day since 7th grade. Even when I was running late for school, even when it was painful to do so and made my acne look worse. If I tried to skip a day, I would be sent to the principal in first period and made to shave with a cheap disposable razor in cold water (our school bathrooms did not have hot water). So no, you are wrong, school dress codes are NOT sexual harassment, they require both male and female students to cover the same areas of their bodies, and wear appropriate clothing, no more, and actually usually still quite less stringent, than the average professional job. Reply Mark says January 14, 2020 at 12:00 am Are school administrators actually saying that girls have to cover up to keep from distracting boys, or is that just something that’s getting repeated so that people come to believe it? At my child’s school, that claim was being made to argue that the dress code is sexist, yet nobody could find any text in the dress code section of the school handbook that said anything about boys being distracted by girls’ skin, and nobody could actually name any teachers or administrators specifically who had actually said anything like that. In reality, the dress code requires both boys and girls to cover up the same body parts – if anything girls are given more latitude, because they can wear sleeveless shirts as long as the straps are wide enough, but boys are not allowed to wear sleeveless shirts at all. Boys also get singled out for things girls don’t have to worry about – in high school I was sent to the office and forced to shave with a dry razor if I tried to skip even one day of shaving (I started shaving in 7th grade, and already had a thick, dark beard by sophomore year). Reply
Faith says
March 21, 2016 at 12:20 pm
The problem that girls have is that they ARE being singled out, for things that boys aren’t. I recently read an article about a girl in high school who was sent home for a skirt that she specifically picked out because of its professionalism, and as she left the buildin, almost in tears, she walked pass another student wearing a shirt with a male stick figure holding a female stick figure’s head to his crotch, with the caption “good girls swallow”, and witnessed teachers walk right past him. Along with that, rules like the leggings/yoga pants code, which bans such pants, are ridiculously sexist and are harassment. It perpetuates rape culture in the fact that girls are told they cannot wear certain things for the sake of their male counterparts. Not only are administrations blaming girls for the lack of restraint of their male counterparts, but they are assuming that the said male counterparts are incapable of practicing self restraint. Along with that, rules outlawing black girls to wear their natural hair, or not being allowed to wear dresses deemed “inappropriate” on site at prom, or not being allowed to wear pants to prom, girls have most definitely drawn the short end of the stick as far as dress codes go. Also, some of the rules you stated above, in many schools, only apply to female students. So yes,dress codes are sexual harassment, because as a girl, I am being conditioned and taught to believe that my adolescent body is little more than a tool that makes sexual deviants of our prized male students, who can do no wrong, and are entitled to coddling and shielding because of their lack of self restraint. Being taught this as early as 11 years old is not fair at all to the female student population. I deserve better. We all deserve better.
Wendy says March 31, 2016 at 10:15 am Thanks for your comment. I respectfully disagree. Reply Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:39 pm Could you explain why you disagree? I’d like to know your reasons.I thought Faith’s argument was valid and insightful. What don’t you agree with?
March 31, 2016 at 10:15 am
Thanks for your comment. I respectfully disagree.
Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:39 pm Could you explain why you disagree? I’d like to know your reasons.I thought Faith’s argument was valid and insightful. What don’t you agree with?
Ashley says
September 14, 2016 at 12:39 pm
Could you explain why you disagree? I’d like to know your reasons.I thought Faith’s argument was valid and insightful. What don’t you agree with?
Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:33 am You can pick any anecdotal argument about school administrators missing one infraction of a dress code (a vulgar t-shirt) while enforcing a too short skirt, but that one instance isn’t even necessarily typical of how that school usually enforces its dress code, let alone how dress codes in general are enforced across the country. Anecdotal evidence really is one of the weakest arguments. The argument that girls shouldn’t wear certain clothing to avoid distracting boys is a bad one that principals should avoid. What they should focus on is first, that the purpose of schools is to prepare students for life. In every job I have ever had, from waiting tables in college to my professional job now, there have been standards of appropriate dress, and they’ve always been more strict than my high school’s dress code. The other argument principals should focus on is there is in fact parity in dress codes. No one, boy or girl, should be allowed to show midriff. No one, boy or girl, should be showing thigh, neither boys’ shorts nor girls’ dresses should be that short. Shoulders should be covered. This is one area where boys actually get singled out more than girls. Boys can’t even wear muscle shirts, let alone tank tops, while a girl could get away with a sleeveless blouse that shows as much upper arm as a muscle shirt. Sometimes dress codes must “single out” members of one sex for one item due to differences in anatomy or differences in fashion trends, but that doesn’t actually mean they are being sexist against girls. You rail against rules against leggings, claim they are sexist. They aren’t. It’s simply a matter of tight leggings being a fashion item women wear that men do not. If men also wore leggings, you can bet schools would also ban boys from wearing them too. Don’t believe me? Think about how thin tight material would perfectly outline a boy’s testicles and penis (sorry to be so blunt, but I think it was necessary to make my point). And you are so wrapped up in how you think girls like you are being singled out, you don’t consider how boys may be singled out. I went through puberty early, and I have a thick, dark beard. That means I have had to shave every day since 7th grade. Even when I was running late for school, even when it was painful to do so and made my acne look worse. If I tried to skip a day, I would be sent to the principal in first period and made to shave with a cheap disposable razor in cold water (our school bathrooms did not have hot water). So no, you are wrong, school dress codes are NOT sexual harassment, they require both male and female students to cover the same areas of their bodies, and wear appropriate clothing, no more, and actually usually still quite less stringent, than the average professional job. Reply
December 20, 2017 at 11:33 am
You can pick any anecdotal argument about school administrators missing one infraction of a dress code (a vulgar t-shirt) while enforcing a too short skirt, but that one instance isn’t even necessarily typical of how that school usually enforces its dress code, let alone how dress codes in general are enforced across the country. Anecdotal evidence really is one of the weakest arguments.
The argument that girls shouldn’t wear certain clothing to avoid distracting boys is a bad one that principals should avoid. What they should focus on is first, that the purpose of schools is to prepare students for life. In every job I have ever had, from waiting tables in college to my professional job now, there have been standards of appropriate dress, and they’ve always been more strict than my high school’s dress code.
The other argument principals should focus on is there is in fact parity in dress codes. No one, boy or girl, should be allowed to show midriff. No one, boy or girl, should be showing thigh, neither boys’ shorts nor girls’ dresses should be that short. Shoulders should be covered. This is one area where boys actually get singled out more than girls. Boys can’t even wear muscle shirts, let alone tank tops, while a girl could get away with a sleeveless blouse that shows as much upper arm as a muscle shirt.
Sometimes dress codes must “single out” members of one sex for one item due to differences in anatomy or differences in fashion trends, but that doesn’t actually mean they are being sexist against girls. You rail against rules against leggings, claim they are sexist. They aren’t. It’s simply a matter of tight leggings being a fashion item women wear that men do not. If men also wore leggings, you can bet schools would also ban boys from wearing them too. Don’t believe me? Think about how thin tight material would perfectly outline a boy’s testicles and penis (sorry to be so blunt, but I think it was necessary to make my point). And you are so wrapped up in how you think girls like you are being singled out, you don’t consider how boys may be singled out. I went through puberty early, and I have a thick, dark beard. That means I have had to shave every day since 7th grade. Even when I was running late for school, even when it was painful to do so and made my acne look worse. If I tried to skip a day, I would be sent to the principal in first period and made to shave with a cheap disposable razor in cold water (our school bathrooms did not have hot water).
So no, you are wrong, school dress codes are NOT sexual harassment, they require both male and female students to cover the same areas of their bodies, and wear appropriate clothing, no more, and actually usually still quite less stringent, than the average professional job.
Mark says January 14, 2020 at 12:00 am Are school administrators actually saying that girls have to cover up to keep from distracting boys, or is that just something that’s getting repeated so that people come to believe it? At my child’s school, that claim was being made to argue that the dress code is sexist, yet nobody could find any text in the dress code section of the school handbook that said anything about boys being distracted by girls’ skin, and nobody could actually name any teachers or administrators specifically who had actually said anything like that. In reality, the dress code requires both boys and girls to cover up the same body parts – if anything girls are given more latitude, because they can wear sleeveless shirts as long as the straps are wide enough, but boys are not allowed to wear sleeveless shirts at all. Boys also get singled out for things girls don’t have to worry about – in high school I was sent to the office and forced to shave with a dry razor if I tried to skip even one day of shaving (I started shaving in 7th grade, and already had a thick, dark beard by sophomore year). Reply
January 14, 2020 at 12:00 am
Are school administrators actually saying that girls have to cover up to keep from distracting boys, or is that just something that’s getting repeated so that people come to believe it? At my child’s school, that claim was being made to argue that the dress code is sexist, yet nobody could find any text in the dress code section of the school handbook that said anything about boys being distracted by girls’ skin, and nobody could actually name any teachers or administrators specifically who had actually said anything like that. In reality, the dress code requires both boys and girls to cover up the same body parts – if anything girls are given more latitude, because they can wear sleeveless shirts as long as the straps are wide enough, but boys are not allowed to wear sleeveless shirts at all. Boys also get singled out for things girls don’t have to worry about – in high school I was sent to the office and forced to shave with a dry razor if I tried to skip even one day of shaving (I started shaving in 7th grade, and already had a thick, dark beard by sophomore year).
Rachel Humphrey says September 28, 2017 at 4:05 pm The problem is boys don’t wear shorts… boys don’t wear their shoulders exposed. Boys don’t get tall and thin. My daughter can’t wear shorts to school at all… there is NOTHING at the store for her to wear that is long enough to cover what they want to be covered. her thighs are long. Becuase she shot up and she’s thin. So she wears smaller to fit her waist and the smaller is shorter. She can’t keep up bigger sizes and bigger with a belt or whatever makes her look like a cinch sack. So basically she has to wear pants in 90-degree weather. She hasn’t worn shorts to school since she was in like 5th grade. The regulations are BS. I could understand if she looked Trashy but she doesn’t they are regular shorts. Try teaching boys to be men instead of teaching girls their bodies are made wrong. (that is what my daughter thinks) It makes me mad just thinking about it. Reply Wendy says October 4, 2017 at 3:54 pm Rachel, Boys DO wear shorts. They DO expose their shoulders, they DO get tall and thin. We now homeschool, but at our public school, the rules are the same for boys as for girls. No short shorts, and no tanks for either ones. I’ totally get what you’re saying about your daughter, and that sucks, but it’s more a fashion thing. My daughter is overweight, and shirts ride up on her butt and she couldn’t wear skater skirts if she was in that school, because it would be too short. I think if the rules are the same for everyone, they are fine, but if they are different for boys and girls, then that is the issue. Reply Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:50 am Boys do wear shorts, “Chubbies”, which show quite a lot of thigh, are currently very popular, but forbidden by most school dress codes because of their brevity. Boys wear shoulder-exposing muscle shirts and tank tops – but not at school because they are forbidden to have their shoulders exposed per school dress codes. Boys do get tall and thin. Their t-shirts and polo shirts get too small and start exposing their stomachs, their shorts get too short for them, and that is when it is time to give them away and buy new clothing that fits them. Personally, I think it is a mistake for schools to allow shorts. Kids are inside, in air conditioning for their classes most of the day. Most professional jobs, the kinds kids should be aspiring to, don’t allow shorts. Even industrial jobs don’t allow shorts. Other than college, from birth to now, I have lived my entire life in Houston, Texas, one of the hottest, most humid cities you can live in in this country. The heat index regularly gets over 100 F in the summer. Up until my junior year of high school, we weren’t allowed to wear shorts to school, yet somehow, we survived. I wear long pants every day to work, even in the heat of the summer. As an environmental engineer, sometimes I have to go out to worksites, be outside all day in the summer, taking samples, walking around, even doing heavy labor. Safety regulations require that I wear not only long pants and longsleeved shirts, but they have to be treated with flame retardant chemicals which make them even hotter. So give me a break about your daughter having to wear long pants in air conditioned classrooms on a 90 F day. School dress codes aren’t teaching girls their bodies are made wrong, they are teaching girls and boys that when you come into a place of learning or of business. you dress appropriately. Life isn’t always about coddling children into believing they should be as “comfortable” as possible to a ridiculous extreme in all situations. Reply
Rachel Humphrey says
September 28, 2017 at 4:05 pm
The problem is boys don’t wear shorts… boys don’t wear their shoulders exposed. Boys don’t get tall and thin. My daughter can’t wear shorts to school at all… there is NOTHING at the store for her to wear that is long enough to cover what they want to be covered. her thighs are long. Becuase she shot up and she’s thin. So she wears smaller to fit her waist and the smaller is shorter. She can’t keep up bigger sizes and bigger with a belt or whatever makes her look like a cinch sack. So basically she has to wear pants in 90-degree weather. She hasn’t worn shorts to school since she was in like 5th grade. The regulations are BS. I could understand if she looked Trashy but she doesn’t they are regular shorts. Try teaching boys to be men instead of teaching girls their bodies are made wrong. (that is what my daughter thinks) It makes me mad just thinking about it.
Wendy says October 4, 2017 at 3:54 pm Rachel, Boys DO wear shorts. They DO expose their shoulders, they DO get tall and thin. We now homeschool, but at our public school, the rules are the same for boys as for girls. No short shorts, and no tanks for either ones. I’ totally get what you’re saying about your daughter, and that sucks, but it’s more a fashion thing. My daughter is overweight, and shirts ride up on her butt and she couldn’t wear skater skirts if she was in that school, because it would be too short. I think if the rules are the same for everyone, they are fine, but if they are different for boys and girls, then that is the issue. Reply
October 4, 2017 at 3:54 pm
Rachel, Boys DO wear shorts. They DO expose their shoulders, they DO get tall and thin. We now homeschool, but at our public school, the rules are the same for boys as for girls. No short shorts, and no tanks for either ones. I’ totally get what you’re saying about your daughter, and that sucks, but it’s more a fashion thing. My daughter is overweight, and shirts ride up on her butt and she couldn’t wear skater skirts if she was in that school, because it would be too short. I think if the rules are the same for everyone, they are fine, but if they are different for boys and girls, then that is the issue.
Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:50 am Boys do wear shorts, “Chubbies”, which show quite a lot of thigh, are currently very popular, but forbidden by most school dress codes because of their brevity. Boys wear shoulder-exposing muscle shirts and tank tops – but not at school because they are forbidden to have their shoulders exposed per school dress codes. Boys do get tall and thin. Their t-shirts and polo shirts get too small and start exposing their stomachs, their shorts get too short for them, and that is when it is time to give them away and buy new clothing that fits them. Personally, I think it is a mistake for schools to allow shorts. Kids are inside, in air conditioning for their classes most of the day. Most professional jobs, the kinds kids should be aspiring to, don’t allow shorts. Even industrial jobs don’t allow shorts. Other than college, from birth to now, I have lived my entire life in Houston, Texas, one of the hottest, most humid cities you can live in in this country. The heat index regularly gets over 100 F in the summer. Up until my junior year of high school, we weren’t allowed to wear shorts to school, yet somehow, we survived. I wear long pants every day to work, even in the heat of the summer. As an environmental engineer, sometimes I have to go out to worksites, be outside all day in the summer, taking samples, walking around, even doing heavy labor. Safety regulations require that I wear not only long pants and longsleeved shirts, but they have to be treated with flame retardant chemicals which make them even hotter. So give me a break about your daughter having to wear long pants in air conditioned classrooms on a 90 F day. School dress codes aren’t teaching girls their bodies are made wrong, they are teaching girls and boys that when you come into a place of learning or of business. you dress appropriately. Life isn’t always about coddling children into believing they should be as “comfortable” as possible to a ridiculous extreme in all situations. Reply
December 20, 2017 at 11:50 am
Boys do wear shorts, “Chubbies”, which show quite a lot of thigh, are currently very popular, but forbidden by most school dress codes because of their brevity. Boys wear shoulder-exposing muscle shirts and tank tops – but not at school because they are forbidden to have their shoulders exposed per school dress codes. Boys do get tall and thin. Their t-shirts and polo shirts get too small and start exposing their stomachs, their shorts get too short for them, and that is when it is time to give them away and buy new clothing that fits them.
Personally, I think it is a mistake for schools to allow shorts. Kids are inside, in air conditioning for their classes most of the day. Most professional jobs, the kinds kids should be aspiring to, don’t allow shorts. Even industrial jobs don’t allow shorts. Other than college, from birth to now, I have lived my entire life in Houston, Texas, one of the hottest, most humid cities you can live in in this country. The heat index regularly gets over 100 F in the summer. Up until my junior year of high school, we weren’t allowed to wear shorts to school, yet somehow, we survived. I wear long pants every day to work, even in the heat of the summer. As an environmental engineer, sometimes I have to go out to worksites, be outside all day in the summer, taking samples, walking around, even doing heavy labor. Safety regulations require that I wear not only long pants and longsleeved shirts, but they have to be treated with flame retardant chemicals which make them even hotter. So give me a break about your daughter having to wear long pants in air conditioned classrooms on a 90 F day. School dress codes aren’t teaching girls their bodies are made wrong, they are teaching girls and boys that when you come into a place of learning or of business. you dress appropriately. Life isn’t always about coddling children into believing they should be as “comfortable” as possible to a ridiculous extreme in all situations.
Crystal says May 14, 2015 at 7:56 pm I definitely didn’t go to school wearing anything like that to school. Our dress code didn’t seem overboard, so I just went with it. But I was always a rule follower. Reply
Crystal says
May 14, 2015 at 7:56 pm
I definitely didn’t go to school wearing anything like that to school. Our dress code didn’t seem overboard, so I just went with it. But I was always a rule follower.
Elizabeth @ Being MVP says May 14, 2015 at 8:24 pm I’m in agreement. Some of the things I see kids in nowadays I dread my daughter wearing when she grows up. Reply
Elizabeth @ Being MVP says
May 14, 2015 at 8:24 pm
I’m in agreement. Some of the things I see kids in nowadays I dread my daughter wearing when she grows up.
Sara P. (@SensiblySara) says May 14, 2015 at 10:07 pm I am SO glad you wrote this. It needed to be said. (Let’s face it – I don’t want to see anyone wearing booty shorts!!) Reply
Sara P. (@SensiblySara) says
May 14, 2015 at 10:07 pm
I am SO glad you wrote this. It needed to be said. (Let’s face it – I don’t want to see anyone wearing booty shorts!!)
Sue says May 15, 2015 at 4:29 pm Good article and made me think back to the days of wearing a uniform and the shock I went into when I transferred to a school that did not have uniforms. Reply
Sue says
May 15, 2015 at 4:29 pm
Good article and made me think back to the days of wearing a uniform and the shock I went into when I transferred to a school that did not have uniforms.
Crystal Green says May 15, 2015 at 9:47 pm Very well stated. I completely agree with you. I do feel that people as a whole should take into consideration how they look when they are out and about. (I personally would love to have a wardrobe makeover because I can’t stand half the things I have to wear.) However, I’ve also gone through a change of heart about this very topic. Reply
Crystal Green says
May 15, 2015 at 9:47 pm
Very well stated. I completely agree with you. I do feel that people as a whole should take into consideration how they look when they are out and about. (I personally would love to have a wardrobe makeover because I can’t stand half the things I have to wear.) However, I’ve also gone through a change of heart about this very topic.
Krista Leigh says May 16, 2015 at 10:51 am asual wear. Bermuda shorts, shoulders covered (because those are SO sexy), etc etc. School aged years are when you’re supposed to “get it all out” and express yourself. Dye your hair crazy colors, find your real interests, find what clothing style suits you as a person…entering the work force isn’t going to be a slap in the face to any 18 year old (most) see their parents “dressing for success” every day. Furthermore, with the newer generations taking over as leaders we have more lienance..tattoo acceptance for example. That idea was previously cover it up with whatever you have and keep it your dirty little secret NOW it’s becoming more of what it was supposed to be in the first place…nobody cares about the tattoos, they care about intelligence, perserverance, and timeliness. Instead of being so down on children and forcing them to grow up at age 15 perhaps we should embrace them LIKE WE ARE SUPPOSED TO and help them to find themselves as human beings…AND since its soooooo controversial for young teenagers to wear things like spaghetti straps/skirts maybe we should teach young men how it isn’t okay or cool to cat call, harass, or rape. If everyone taught their children to respect other people as people there wouldn’t be this nonsense. Another thing…perhaps instead of worrying about the children who at least have clothes to wear we can start uniforming or sending clothes to impoverished/low income areas who don’t have the means to clothe the children IF they even make it to school. Forget spaghetti straps let’s fix the fact that children are coming to school wearing the same pants for a week at a time. Reply Krista Leigh says May 16, 2015 at 10:53 am Sorry the beginning of my statement was “the dress code that is supposed to be unisex is nothing more than male casual wear.” Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 10:02 am BOTH Male and Female casual wear, actual. When I shop, I find summer clothing for myself, I look for clothes that suit me, and they are easily found. I don’t’; search out short, spaghetti straps. I have no issue with them, I have a few, AND I wear them, but in places where they make sense, to me. I would NEVER dream of wearing it out to work. Or church. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 2:35 pm You’re also a 30+ aged woman. No child should be forced to dress like they are any more than their actual age. Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:41 pm Thanks for the compliment- I’m 44! And yes, they should be “forced” to dress appropriately. I am ALL For kids dressing however they want when it’s appropriate. I love to see the wonderful ways people can use clothing to express themselves. But there is a time and a place for everything. Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:32 pm And school isn’t one of them? Can’t remember there being a dress code for college…weird. I think they can survive without one or uniforms. Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:55 am Actually, Krista Leigh, many universities DO have dress codes that at least forbid overly revealing clothing such as bare midriffs, short skits, etc. University of Texas at Austin is one. Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 9:59 am Thanks for your comment, Krista. I’ll agree 100% about teaching men about treating women with respect. I am NOT talking about the schools that have told girls that they can’t wear shorts, etc. because it’s distracting to the boys- When they go in with that attitude, believe me, I’m the first one there to help protest. It’s when a school has a regular dress code and its dress code has been upheld all the while, and some girl gets pissy she can’t wear what she wants, then yeah, grow up honey and follow the rules. I disagree that simply because you’re trying to “find your style” or “get it all out” you can do what you want. The way the world works is that there are rules and they have to be followed. Yes, you are free to dye your hair any color you want (mine is currently 1/2 purple, and my 16 year old’s is 1/2 pink!) and get as many tats as you want, but let’s face it, you’re not going to get hired for certain jobs without looking a certain way. It’s simply the way life is right now. I can tell you that I’m not so sure I’m liking this new lenience these day. There are times you simply should dress respectfully and with decorum. Wearing flip-flops into the White House isn’t ok in my book, no matter how “cool” the President is trying to be (and that’s a whole other story). There are plenty of places that need to be treated with respect. I recently went to a Bat Mitzvah and the invite said that covered shoulders were required. Did my teen freak out? Nope, she made sure she covered her shoulders. In fact, a TEMPLE full of teen shad covered shoulders Their individuality wasn’t stifled, they were respectful. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 2:49 pm You will get hired. In fact, I’m in a very respectable position and have visible tattoos, wear colorful makeup, and loud jewelry. My hair has been a far share of colors before I settled on blue black. Just because you or “society” (which is always evolving towards acceptance for all) doesn’t care for it doesn’t mean it’s wrong. I dressed as I saw fit when I was a teenager after graduating from a private school with a strict dress code that left me feeling repressed and consequently depressed. Did my parents (who are very conservative) really like the way I dressed? Not particularly. I bought my own clothes. I graduated from highschool with honors, went on to graduate from a private college summa cum laude, and I’m living a very happy and successful life. That’s DESPITE the occasional mid-riff showing or spaghetti straps. I’m SURE that had you seen me when I was a teenager in my Hot Topic poster child era that you would have assumed the worst and shame on you for that. (And yes, I wore that style EVERYWHERE.) What DOES matter in this world is intelligence, timeliness, and a positive attitude. I’m proof of that. There’s more to life than worrying about what someone else’s child is wearing and how appropriate or inappropriate it is. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 3:04 pm Oh and I have to say…none and I mean NONE of my patients could give one hoot about the way I look. Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:54 pm What kind of medicine do you practice? Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:52 pm Of course you will get a job, but not every job you apply for. I think perhaps, you are not getting the whole point of this post. I’d am NOT against people dressing as like they ON THEIR OWN TIME, but when they are in a place where there is a dress code, they are not being harassed for being held to those rules. For instance. today, at the grocery store, I saw a group of teens who work at the store. They were all boys. They all had on white, long sleeved button down shirts, and ties, with khakis. It was the DRESS CODE of their place of employment. In order to work there, that is what they have to wear. So, they do. If they throw a snit and cry foul and say, “OH NO! You’re Tamping down my individuality and self- expression and you’re being sexist because girls can wear short sleeves and I can’t and THIS ISN’T FAIR TO ME!” -that is utter bullshit. THAT is what I am talking about. Girl, i have PURPLE hair, and I wear not exactly conservative clothing. My kids dress however they want WHEN IT IS APPROPRIATE. My girl had blue, green, purple, pink hair and now is just pink. My boy wants to go blue. I’m all for it. When my girl turns 17 we’re getting matching tattoos. Please look again and see what I’m saying. There is a time, and a place for everything. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:43 pm RX. I also have a degree in Biology and education. The teens you speak of are at work. Not school. I’m talking about the useless policy of uniforming and the asinine dress codes in a school setting. No child or teen going to school is going to be unaware of how to dress for a job in the future. Formative years are school years. That’s time to express themselves. They aren’t idiots…if they apply for a job with a uniform they know what it entails. Guess you’re missing my point. Agree to disagree. (Oh and my job was the first and only job I applied to when I moved to the area I currently live in…I wouldn’t worry so much about future acceptance and the ability to get and keep employment.) Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:52 pm I will disagree- school IS a kids “job”. It’s what they are supposed to do. I’m really glad that things worked out for you. You certainly sound like you have your shit together and that’s great. We can agree to disagree for sure- we both have different points. Good luck to you. Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:53 pm Funny, I didn’t have a dress code in college, either,but guess what? I did have rules, and I followed them. This is about RULES and FOLLOWING THEM, and not bitching when you don’t get your way. Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 8:21 pm I may be completely wrong but I’m fairly certain that following the rules has to do with the attitude of the individual. An asshole in a polo shirt and khakis is still an asshole. You don’t become a great person just because you’re dressed a certain way. If your child (subjectively of course) is a disrespectful individual it’s more likely it’s about the way they were raised rather than dressed. Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 8:49 pm That’s EXACTLY my point, Krista. I don’t have a problem with the clothing the girls (or boys) are wearing, I have a problem with them these people people thinking that the rules don’t apply to them – rules are rules. that’s the WHOLE point. Assholes are assholes, no matter what they are wearing. When a kid isn’t willing to following the rules, that’s disrespectful, not the clothing. Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:49 pm The most dangerous phrase in the language is “We’ve always done it this way”. If a rule is discriminatory, it should be challenged, not blindly followed. My five year old daughter was given a sweater to wear because she was wearing a beautiful sundress with spaghetti straps to school. She wore that dress to a wedding and to church with no complaints. The rule applies to boys as well, but have you ever seen a spaghetti strap tank top for boys at a store? It’s discriminatory and therefore needs to be challenged. If private parts are completely covered, it doesn’t depict any vulgar language / pictures, and it’s appropriate for the weather, there should be no issue. Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:58 am And that completely depends on what industry you go into as to whether that is acceptable or not. If you went into management consulting, or banking, or even a lot of engineering fields, looking like that would PREVENT you from getting hired. We would do our children a disservice if we only prepared them for life working in the most permissive work environments. Reply
Krista Leigh says
May 16, 2015 at 10:51 am
asual wear. Bermuda shorts, shoulders covered (because those are SO sexy), etc etc. School aged years are when you’re supposed to “get it all out” and express yourself. Dye your hair crazy colors, find your real interests, find what clothing style suits you as a person…entering the work force isn’t going to be a slap in the face to any 18 year old (most) see their parents “dressing for success” every day. Furthermore, with the newer generations taking over as leaders we have more lienance..tattoo acceptance for example. That idea was previously cover it up with whatever you have and keep it your dirty little secret NOW it’s becoming more of what it was supposed to be in the first place…nobody cares about the tattoos, they care about intelligence, perserverance, and timeliness. Instead of being so down on children and forcing them to grow up at age 15 perhaps we should embrace them LIKE WE ARE SUPPOSED TO and help them to find themselves as human beings…AND since its soooooo controversial for young teenagers to wear things like spaghetti straps/skirts maybe we should teach young men how it isn’t okay or cool to cat call, harass, or rape. If everyone taught their children to respect other people as people there wouldn’t be this nonsense. Another thing…perhaps instead of worrying about the children who at least have clothes to wear we can start uniforming or sending clothes to impoverished/low income areas who don’t have the means to clothe the children IF they even make it to school. Forget spaghetti straps let’s fix the fact that children are coming to school wearing the same pants for a week at a time.
Krista Leigh says May 16, 2015 at 10:53 am Sorry the beginning of my statement was “the dress code that is supposed to be unisex is nothing more than male casual wear.” Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 10:02 am BOTH Male and Female casual wear, actual. When I shop, I find summer clothing for myself, I look for clothes that suit me, and they are easily found. I don’t’; search out short, spaghetti straps. I have no issue with them, I have a few, AND I wear them, but in places where they make sense, to me. I would NEVER dream of wearing it out to work. Or church. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 2:35 pm You’re also a 30+ aged woman. No child should be forced to dress like they are any more than their actual age. Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:41 pm Thanks for the compliment- I’m 44! And yes, they should be “forced” to dress appropriately. I am ALL For kids dressing however they want when it’s appropriate. I love to see the wonderful ways people can use clothing to express themselves. But there is a time and a place for everything. Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:32 pm And school isn’t one of them? Can’t remember there being a dress code for college…weird. I think they can survive without one or uniforms. Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:55 am Actually, Krista Leigh, many universities DO have dress codes that at least forbid overly revealing clothing such as bare midriffs, short skits, etc. University of Texas at Austin is one.
May 16, 2015 at 10:53 am
Sorry the beginning of my statement was “the dress code that is supposed to be unisex is nothing more than male casual wear.”
Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 10:02 am BOTH Male and Female casual wear, actual. When I shop, I find summer clothing for myself, I look for clothes that suit me, and they are easily found. I don’t’; search out short, spaghetti straps. I have no issue with them, I have a few, AND I wear them, but in places where they make sense, to me. I would NEVER dream of wearing it out to work. Or church. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 2:35 pm You’re also a 30+ aged woman. No child should be forced to dress like they are any more than their actual age. Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:41 pm Thanks for the compliment- I’m 44! And yes, they should be “forced” to dress appropriately. I am ALL For kids dressing however they want when it’s appropriate. I love to see the wonderful ways people can use clothing to express themselves. But there is a time and a place for everything. Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:32 pm And school isn’t one of them? Can’t remember there being a dress code for college…weird. I think they can survive without one or uniforms. Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:55 am Actually, Krista Leigh, many universities DO have dress codes that at least forbid overly revealing clothing such as bare midriffs, short skits, etc. University of Texas at Austin is one.
May 17, 2015 at 10:02 am
BOTH Male and Female casual wear, actual. When I shop, I find summer clothing for myself, I look for clothes that suit me, and they are easily found. I don’t’; search out short, spaghetti straps. I have no issue with them, I have a few, AND I wear them, but in places where they make sense, to me. I would NEVER dream of wearing it out to work. Or church.
Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 2:35 pm You’re also a 30+ aged woman. No child should be forced to dress like they are any more than their actual age. Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:41 pm Thanks for the compliment- I’m 44! And yes, they should be “forced” to dress appropriately. I am ALL For kids dressing however they want when it’s appropriate. I love to see the wonderful ways people can use clothing to express themselves. But there is a time and a place for everything. Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:32 pm And school isn’t one of them? Can’t remember there being a dress code for college…weird. I think they can survive without one or uniforms. Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:55 am Actually, Krista Leigh, many universities DO have dress codes that at least forbid overly revealing clothing such as bare midriffs, short skits, etc. University of Texas at Austin is one.
May 17, 2015 at 2:35 pm
You’re also a 30+ aged woman. No child should be forced to dress like they are any more than their actual age.
Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:41 pm Thanks for the compliment- I’m 44! And yes, they should be “forced” to dress appropriately. I am ALL For kids dressing however they want when it’s appropriate. I love to see the wonderful ways people can use clothing to express themselves. But there is a time and a place for everything.
May 17, 2015 at 6:41 pm
Thanks for the compliment- I’m 44! And yes, they should be “forced” to dress appropriately. I am ALL For kids dressing however they want when it’s appropriate. I love to see the wonderful ways people can use clothing to express themselves. But there is a time and a place for everything.
Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:32 pm And school isn’t one of them? Can’t remember there being a dress code for college…weird. I think they can survive without one or uniforms.
May 17, 2015 at 7:32 pm
And school isn’t one of them? Can’t remember there being a dress code for college…weird. I think they can survive without one or uniforms.
Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:55 am Actually, Krista Leigh, many universities DO have dress codes that at least forbid overly revealing clothing such as bare midriffs, short skits, etc. University of Texas at Austin is one.
December 20, 2017 at 11:55 am
Actually, Krista Leigh, many universities DO have dress codes that at least forbid overly revealing clothing such as bare midriffs, short skits, etc. University of Texas at Austin is one.
Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 9:59 am Thanks for your comment, Krista. I’ll agree 100% about teaching men about treating women with respect. I am NOT talking about the schools that have told girls that they can’t wear shorts, etc. because it’s distracting to the boys- When they go in with that attitude, believe me, I’m the first one there to help protest. It’s when a school has a regular dress code and its dress code has been upheld all the while, and some girl gets pissy she can’t wear what she wants, then yeah, grow up honey and follow the rules. I disagree that simply because you’re trying to “find your style” or “get it all out” you can do what you want. The way the world works is that there are rules and they have to be followed. Yes, you are free to dye your hair any color you want (mine is currently 1/2 purple, and my 16 year old’s is 1/2 pink!) and get as many tats as you want, but let’s face it, you’re not going to get hired for certain jobs without looking a certain way. It’s simply the way life is right now. I can tell you that I’m not so sure I’m liking this new lenience these day. There are times you simply should dress respectfully and with decorum. Wearing flip-flops into the White House isn’t ok in my book, no matter how “cool” the President is trying to be (and that’s a whole other story). There are plenty of places that need to be treated with respect. I recently went to a Bat Mitzvah and the invite said that covered shoulders were required. Did my teen freak out? Nope, she made sure she covered her shoulders. In fact, a TEMPLE full of teen shad covered shoulders Their individuality wasn’t stifled, they were respectful. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 2:49 pm You will get hired. In fact, I’m in a very respectable position and have visible tattoos, wear colorful makeup, and loud jewelry. My hair has been a far share of colors before I settled on blue black. Just because you or “society” (which is always evolving towards acceptance for all) doesn’t care for it doesn’t mean it’s wrong. I dressed as I saw fit when I was a teenager after graduating from a private school with a strict dress code that left me feeling repressed and consequently depressed. Did my parents (who are very conservative) really like the way I dressed? Not particularly. I bought my own clothes. I graduated from highschool with honors, went on to graduate from a private college summa cum laude, and I’m living a very happy and successful life. That’s DESPITE the occasional mid-riff showing or spaghetti straps. I’m SURE that had you seen me when I was a teenager in my Hot Topic poster child era that you would have assumed the worst and shame on you for that. (And yes, I wore that style EVERYWHERE.) What DOES matter in this world is intelligence, timeliness, and a positive attitude. I’m proof of that. There’s more to life than worrying about what someone else’s child is wearing and how appropriate or inappropriate it is. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 3:04 pm Oh and I have to say…none and I mean NONE of my patients could give one hoot about the way I look. Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:54 pm What kind of medicine do you practice? Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:52 pm Of course you will get a job, but not every job you apply for. I think perhaps, you are not getting the whole point of this post. I’d am NOT against people dressing as like they ON THEIR OWN TIME, but when they are in a place where there is a dress code, they are not being harassed for being held to those rules. For instance. today, at the grocery store, I saw a group of teens who work at the store. They were all boys. They all had on white, long sleeved button down shirts, and ties, with khakis. It was the DRESS CODE of their place of employment. In order to work there, that is what they have to wear. So, they do. If they throw a snit and cry foul and say, “OH NO! You’re Tamping down my individuality and self- expression and you’re being sexist because girls can wear short sleeves and I can’t and THIS ISN’T FAIR TO ME!” -that is utter bullshit. THAT is what I am talking about. Girl, i have PURPLE hair, and I wear not exactly conservative clothing. My kids dress however they want WHEN IT IS APPROPRIATE. My girl had blue, green, purple, pink hair and now is just pink. My boy wants to go blue. I’m all for it. When my girl turns 17 we’re getting matching tattoos. Please look again and see what I’m saying. There is a time, and a place for everything. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:43 pm RX. I also have a degree in Biology and education. The teens you speak of are at work. Not school. I’m talking about the useless policy of uniforming and the asinine dress codes in a school setting. No child or teen going to school is going to be unaware of how to dress for a job in the future. Formative years are school years. That’s time to express themselves. They aren’t idiots…if they apply for a job with a uniform they know what it entails. Guess you’re missing my point. Agree to disagree. (Oh and my job was the first and only job I applied to when I moved to the area I currently live in…I wouldn’t worry so much about future acceptance and the ability to get and keep employment.) Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:52 pm I will disagree- school IS a kids “job”. It’s what they are supposed to do. I’m really glad that things worked out for you. You certainly sound like you have your shit together and that’s great. We can agree to disagree for sure- we both have different points. Good luck to you. Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:53 pm Funny, I didn’t have a dress code in college, either,but guess what? I did have rules, and I followed them. This is about RULES and FOLLOWING THEM, and not bitching when you don’t get your way. Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 8:21 pm I may be completely wrong but I’m fairly certain that following the rules has to do with the attitude of the individual. An asshole in a polo shirt and khakis is still an asshole. You don’t become a great person just because you’re dressed a certain way. If your child (subjectively of course) is a disrespectful individual it’s more likely it’s about the way they were raised rather than dressed. Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 8:49 pm That’s EXACTLY my point, Krista. I don’t have a problem with the clothing the girls (or boys) are wearing, I have a problem with them these people people thinking that the rules don’t apply to them – rules are rules. that’s the WHOLE point. Assholes are assholes, no matter what they are wearing. When a kid isn’t willing to following the rules, that’s disrespectful, not the clothing. Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:49 pm The most dangerous phrase in the language is “We’ve always done it this way”. If a rule is discriminatory, it should be challenged, not blindly followed. My five year old daughter was given a sweater to wear because she was wearing a beautiful sundress with spaghetti straps to school. She wore that dress to a wedding and to church with no complaints. The rule applies to boys as well, but have you ever seen a spaghetti strap tank top for boys at a store? It’s discriminatory and therefore needs to be challenged. If private parts are completely covered, it doesn’t depict any vulgar language / pictures, and it’s appropriate for the weather, there should be no issue. Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:58 am And that completely depends on what industry you go into as to whether that is acceptable or not. If you went into management consulting, or banking, or even a lot of engineering fields, looking like that would PREVENT you from getting hired. We would do our children a disservice if we only prepared them for life working in the most permissive work environments. Reply
May 17, 2015 at 9:59 am
Thanks for your comment, Krista. I’ll agree 100% about teaching men about treating women with respect. I am NOT talking about the schools that have told girls that they can’t wear shorts, etc. because it’s distracting to the boys- When they go in with that attitude, believe me, I’m the first one there to help protest. It’s when a school has a regular dress code and its dress code has been upheld all the while, and some girl gets pissy she can’t wear what she wants, then yeah, grow up honey and follow the rules. I disagree that simply because you’re trying to “find your style” or “get it all out” you can do what you want. The way the world works is that there are rules and they have to be followed. Yes, you are free to dye your hair any color you want (mine is currently 1/2 purple, and my 16 year old’s is 1/2 pink!) and get as many tats as you want, but let’s face it, you’re not going to get hired for certain jobs without looking a certain way. It’s simply the way life is right now. I can tell you that I’m not so sure I’m liking this new lenience these day. There are times you simply should dress respectfully and with decorum. Wearing flip-flops into the White House isn’t ok in my book, no matter how “cool” the President is trying to be (and that’s a whole other story). There are plenty of places that need to be treated with respect. I recently went to a Bat Mitzvah and the invite said that covered shoulders were required. Did my teen freak out? Nope, she made sure she covered her shoulders. In fact, a TEMPLE full of teen shad covered shoulders Their individuality wasn’t stifled, they were respectful.
Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 2:49 pm You will get hired. In fact, I’m in a very respectable position and have visible tattoos, wear colorful makeup, and loud jewelry. My hair has been a far share of colors before I settled on blue black. Just because you or “society” (which is always evolving towards acceptance for all) doesn’t care for it doesn’t mean it’s wrong. I dressed as I saw fit when I was a teenager after graduating from a private school with a strict dress code that left me feeling repressed and consequently depressed. Did my parents (who are very conservative) really like the way I dressed? Not particularly. I bought my own clothes. I graduated from highschool with honors, went on to graduate from a private college summa cum laude, and I’m living a very happy and successful life. That’s DESPITE the occasional mid-riff showing or spaghetti straps. I’m SURE that had you seen me when I was a teenager in my Hot Topic poster child era that you would have assumed the worst and shame on you for that. (And yes, I wore that style EVERYWHERE.) What DOES matter in this world is intelligence, timeliness, and a positive attitude. I’m proof of that. There’s more to life than worrying about what someone else’s child is wearing and how appropriate or inappropriate it is. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 3:04 pm Oh and I have to say…none and I mean NONE of my patients could give one hoot about the way I look. Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:54 pm What kind of medicine do you practice? Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:52 pm Of course you will get a job, but not every job you apply for. I think perhaps, you are not getting the whole point of this post. I’d am NOT against people dressing as like they ON THEIR OWN TIME, but when they are in a place where there is a dress code, they are not being harassed for being held to those rules. For instance. today, at the grocery store, I saw a group of teens who work at the store. They were all boys. They all had on white, long sleeved button down shirts, and ties, with khakis. It was the DRESS CODE of their place of employment. In order to work there, that is what they have to wear. So, they do. If they throw a snit and cry foul and say, “OH NO! You’re Tamping down my individuality and self- expression and you’re being sexist because girls can wear short sleeves and I can’t and THIS ISN’T FAIR TO ME!” -that is utter bullshit. THAT is what I am talking about. Girl, i have PURPLE hair, and I wear not exactly conservative clothing. My kids dress however they want WHEN IT IS APPROPRIATE. My girl had blue, green, purple, pink hair and now is just pink. My boy wants to go blue. I’m all for it. When my girl turns 17 we’re getting matching tattoos. Please look again and see what I’m saying. There is a time, and a place for everything. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:43 pm RX. I also have a degree in Biology and education. The teens you speak of are at work. Not school. I’m talking about the useless policy of uniforming and the asinine dress codes in a school setting. No child or teen going to school is going to be unaware of how to dress for a job in the future. Formative years are school years. That’s time to express themselves. They aren’t idiots…if they apply for a job with a uniform they know what it entails. Guess you’re missing my point. Agree to disagree. (Oh and my job was the first and only job I applied to when I moved to the area I currently live in…I wouldn’t worry so much about future acceptance and the ability to get and keep employment.) Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:52 pm I will disagree- school IS a kids “job”. It’s what they are supposed to do. I’m really glad that things worked out for you. You certainly sound like you have your shit together and that’s great. We can agree to disagree for sure- we both have different points. Good luck to you. Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:53 pm Funny, I didn’t have a dress code in college, either,but guess what? I did have rules, and I followed them. This is about RULES and FOLLOWING THEM, and not bitching when you don’t get your way. Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 8:21 pm I may be completely wrong but I’m fairly certain that following the rules has to do with the attitude of the individual. An asshole in a polo shirt and khakis is still an asshole. You don’t become a great person just because you’re dressed a certain way. If your child (subjectively of course) is a disrespectful individual it’s more likely it’s about the way they were raised rather than dressed. Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 8:49 pm That’s EXACTLY my point, Krista. I don’t have a problem with the clothing the girls (or boys) are wearing, I have a problem with them these people people thinking that the rules don’t apply to them – rules are rules. that’s the WHOLE point. Assholes are assholes, no matter what they are wearing. When a kid isn’t willing to following the rules, that’s disrespectful, not the clothing. Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:49 pm The most dangerous phrase in the language is “We’ve always done it this way”. If a rule is discriminatory, it should be challenged, not blindly followed. My five year old daughter was given a sweater to wear because she was wearing a beautiful sundress with spaghetti straps to school. She wore that dress to a wedding and to church with no complaints. The rule applies to boys as well, but have you ever seen a spaghetti strap tank top for boys at a store? It’s discriminatory and therefore needs to be challenged. If private parts are completely covered, it doesn’t depict any vulgar language / pictures, and it’s appropriate for the weather, there should be no issue. Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:58 am And that completely depends on what industry you go into as to whether that is acceptable or not. If you went into management consulting, or banking, or even a lot of engineering fields, looking like that would PREVENT you from getting hired. We would do our children a disservice if we only prepared them for life working in the most permissive work environments. Reply
May 17, 2015 at 2:49 pm
You will get hired. In fact, I’m in a very respectable position and have visible tattoos, wear colorful makeup, and loud jewelry. My hair has been a far share of colors before I settled on blue black. Just because you or “society” (which is always evolving towards acceptance for all) doesn’t care for it doesn’t mean it’s wrong. I dressed as I saw fit when I was a teenager after graduating from a private school with a strict dress code that left me feeling repressed and consequently depressed. Did my parents (who are very conservative) really like the way I dressed? Not particularly. I bought my own clothes. I graduated from highschool with honors, went on to graduate from a private college summa cum laude, and I’m living a very happy and successful life. That’s DESPITE the occasional mid-riff showing or spaghetti straps. I’m SURE that had you seen me when I was a teenager in my Hot Topic poster child era that you would have assumed the worst and shame on you for that. (And yes, I wore that style EVERYWHERE.) What DOES matter in this world is intelligence, timeliness, and a positive attitude. I’m proof of that. There’s more to life than worrying about what someone else’s child is wearing and how appropriate or inappropriate it is.
Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 3:04 pm Oh and I have to say…none and I mean NONE of my patients could give one hoot about the way I look. Reply Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:54 pm What kind of medicine do you practice?
May 17, 2015 at 3:04 pm
Oh and I have to say…none and I mean NONE of my patients could give one hoot about the way I look.
Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:54 pm What kind of medicine do you practice?
May 17, 2015 at 6:54 pm
What kind of medicine do you practice?
Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 6:52 pm Of course you will get a job, but not every job you apply for. I think perhaps, you are not getting the whole point of this post. I’d am NOT against people dressing as like they ON THEIR OWN TIME, but when they are in a place where there is a dress code, they are not being harassed for being held to those rules. For instance. today, at the grocery store, I saw a group of teens who work at the store. They were all boys. They all had on white, long sleeved button down shirts, and ties, with khakis. It was the DRESS CODE of their place of employment. In order to work there, that is what they have to wear. So, they do. If they throw a snit and cry foul and say, “OH NO! You’re Tamping down my individuality and self- expression and you’re being sexist because girls can wear short sleeves and I can’t and THIS ISN’T FAIR TO ME!” -that is utter bullshit. THAT is what I am talking about. Girl, i have PURPLE hair, and I wear not exactly conservative clothing. My kids dress however they want WHEN IT IS APPROPRIATE. My girl had blue, green, purple, pink hair and now is just pink. My boy wants to go blue. I’m all for it. When my girl turns 17 we’re getting matching tattoos. Please look again and see what I’m saying. There is a time, and a place for everything. Reply Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:43 pm RX. I also have a degree in Biology and education. The teens you speak of are at work. Not school. I’m talking about the useless policy of uniforming and the asinine dress codes in a school setting. No child or teen going to school is going to be unaware of how to dress for a job in the future. Formative years are school years. That’s time to express themselves. They aren’t idiots…if they apply for a job with a uniform they know what it entails. Guess you’re missing my point. Agree to disagree. (Oh and my job was the first and only job I applied to when I moved to the area I currently live in…I wouldn’t worry so much about future acceptance and the ability to get and keep employment.) Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:52 pm I will disagree- school IS a kids “job”. It’s what they are supposed to do. I’m really glad that things worked out for you. You certainly sound like you have your shit together and that’s great. We can agree to disagree for sure- we both have different points. Good luck to you. Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:53 pm Funny, I didn’t have a dress code in college, either,but guess what? I did have rules, and I followed them. This is about RULES and FOLLOWING THEM, and not bitching when you don’t get your way. Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 8:21 pm I may be completely wrong but I’m fairly certain that following the rules has to do with the attitude of the individual. An asshole in a polo shirt and khakis is still an asshole. You don’t become a great person just because you’re dressed a certain way. If your child (subjectively of course) is a disrespectful individual it’s more likely it’s about the way they were raised rather than dressed. Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 8:49 pm That’s EXACTLY my point, Krista. I don’t have a problem with the clothing the girls (or boys) are wearing, I have a problem with them these people people thinking that the rules don’t apply to them – rules are rules. that’s the WHOLE point. Assholes are assholes, no matter what they are wearing. When a kid isn’t willing to following the rules, that’s disrespectful, not the clothing. Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:49 pm The most dangerous phrase in the language is “We’ve always done it this way”. If a rule is discriminatory, it should be challenged, not blindly followed. My five year old daughter was given a sweater to wear because she was wearing a beautiful sundress with spaghetti straps to school. She wore that dress to a wedding and to church with no complaints. The rule applies to boys as well, but have you ever seen a spaghetti strap tank top for boys at a store? It’s discriminatory and therefore needs to be challenged. If private parts are completely covered, it doesn’t depict any vulgar language / pictures, and it’s appropriate for the weather, there should be no issue.
May 17, 2015 at 6:52 pm
Of course you will get a job, but not every job you apply for. I think perhaps, you are not getting the whole point of this post. I’d am NOT against people dressing as like they ON THEIR OWN TIME, but when they are in a place where there is a dress code, they are not being harassed for being held to those rules. For instance. today, at the grocery store, I saw a group of teens who work at the store. They were all boys. They all had on white, long sleeved button down shirts, and ties, with khakis. It was the DRESS CODE of their place of employment. In order to work there, that is what they have to wear. So, they do. If they throw a snit and cry foul and say, “OH NO! You’re Tamping down my individuality and self- expression and you’re being sexist because girls can wear short sleeves and I can’t and THIS ISN’T FAIR TO ME!” -that is utter bullshit. THAT is what I am talking about.
Girl, i have PURPLE hair, and I wear not exactly conservative clothing. My kids dress however they want WHEN IT IS APPROPRIATE. My girl had blue, green, purple, pink hair and now is just pink. My boy wants to go blue. I’m all for it. When my girl turns 17 we’re getting matching tattoos. Please look again and see what I’m saying. There is a time, and a place for everything.
Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 7:43 pm RX. I also have a degree in Biology and education. The teens you speak of are at work. Not school. I’m talking about the useless policy of uniforming and the asinine dress codes in a school setting. No child or teen going to school is going to be unaware of how to dress for a job in the future. Formative years are school years. That’s time to express themselves. They aren’t idiots…if they apply for a job with a uniform they know what it entails. Guess you’re missing my point. Agree to disagree. (Oh and my job was the first and only job I applied to when I moved to the area I currently live in…I wouldn’t worry so much about future acceptance and the ability to get and keep employment.)
May 17, 2015 at 7:43 pm
RX. I also have a degree in Biology and education. The teens you speak of are at work. Not school. I’m talking about the useless policy of uniforming and the asinine dress codes in a school setting. No child or teen going to school is going to be unaware of how to dress for a job in the future. Formative years are school years. That’s time to express themselves. They aren’t idiots…if they apply for a job with a uniform they know what it entails. Guess you’re missing my point. Agree to disagree. (Oh and my job was the first and only job I applied to when I moved to the area I currently live in…I wouldn’t worry so much about future acceptance and the ability to get and keep employment.)
Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:52 pm I will disagree- school IS a kids “job”. It’s what they are supposed to do. I’m really glad that things worked out for you. You certainly sound like you have your shit together and that’s great. We can agree to disagree for sure- we both have different points. Good luck to you.
May 17, 2015 at 7:52 pm
I will disagree- school IS a kids “job”. It’s what they are supposed to do. I’m really glad that things worked out for you. You certainly sound like you have your shit together and that’s great. We can agree to disagree for sure- we both have different points. Good luck to you.
Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 7:53 pm Funny, I didn’t have a dress code in college, either,but guess what? I did have rules, and I followed them. This is about RULES and FOLLOWING THEM, and not bitching when you don’t get your way.
May 17, 2015 at 7:53 pm
Funny, I didn’t have a dress code in college, either,but guess what? I did have rules, and I followed them. This is about RULES and FOLLOWING THEM, and not bitching when you don’t get your way.
Krista Leigh says May 17, 2015 at 8:21 pm I may be completely wrong but I’m fairly certain that following the rules has to do with the attitude of the individual. An asshole in a polo shirt and khakis is still an asshole. You don’t become a great person just because you’re dressed a certain way. If your child (subjectively of course) is a disrespectful individual it’s more likely it’s about the way they were raised rather than dressed.
May 17, 2015 at 8:21 pm
I may be completely wrong but I’m fairly certain that following the rules has to do with the attitude of the individual. An asshole in a polo shirt and khakis is still an asshole. You don’t become a great person just because you’re dressed a certain way. If your child (subjectively of course) is a disrespectful individual it’s more likely it’s about the way they were raised rather than dressed.
Wendy says May 17, 2015 at 8:49 pm That’s EXACTLY my point, Krista. I don’t have a problem with the clothing the girls (or boys) are wearing, I have a problem with them these people people thinking that the rules don’t apply to them – rules are rules. that’s the WHOLE point. Assholes are assholes, no matter what they are wearing. When a kid isn’t willing to following the rules, that’s disrespectful, not the clothing.
May 17, 2015 at 8:49 pm
That’s EXACTLY my point, Krista. I don’t have a problem with the clothing the girls (or boys) are wearing, I have a problem with them these people people thinking that the rules don’t apply to them – rules are rules. that’s the WHOLE point. Assholes are assholes, no matter what they are wearing. When a kid isn’t willing to following the rules, that’s disrespectful, not the clothing.
Ashley says September 14, 2016 at 12:49 pm The most dangerous phrase in the language is “We’ve always done it this way”. If a rule is discriminatory, it should be challenged, not blindly followed. My five year old daughter was given a sweater to wear because she was wearing a beautiful sundress with spaghetti straps to school. She wore that dress to a wedding and to church with no complaints. The rule applies to boys as well, but have you ever seen a spaghetti strap tank top for boys at a store? It’s discriminatory and therefore needs to be challenged. If private parts are completely covered, it doesn’t depict any vulgar language / pictures, and it’s appropriate for the weather, there should be no issue.
September 14, 2016 at 12:49 pm
The most dangerous phrase in the language is “We’ve always done it this way”. If a rule is discriminatory, it should be challenged, not blindly followed. My five year old daughter was given a sweater to wear because she was wearing a beautiful sundress with spaghetti straps to school. She wore that dress to a wedding and to church with no complaints. The rule applies to boys as well, but have you ever seen a spaghetti strap tank top for boys at a store? It’s discriminatory and therefore needs to be challenged. If private parts are completely covered, it doesn’t depict any vulgar language / pictures, and it’s appropriate for the weather, there should be no issue.
Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:58 am And that completely depends on what industry you go into as to whether that is acceptable or not. If you went into management consulting, or banking, or even a lot of engineering fields, looking like that would PREVENT you from getting hired. We would do our children a disservice if we only prepared them for life working in the most permissive work environments. Reply
December 20, 2017 at 11:58 am
And that completely depends on what industry you go into as to whether that is acceptable or not. If you went into management consulting, or banking, or even a lot of engineering fields, looking like that would PREVENT you from getting hired. We would do our children a disservice if we only prepared them for life working in the most permissive work environments.
Melissa says May 17, 2015 at 3:03 pm I completely agree. Just follow the rules and there will be no issues. Kids don’t have to be dressing any way outside a dress code. Reply
Melissa says
May 17, 2015 at 3:03 pm
I completely agree. Just follow the rules and there will be no issues. Kids don’t have to be dressing any way outside a dress code.
ARod says May 19, 2015 at 6:15 pm i agree with you completely its about teaching them to follow rules there are rules everywhere in life Reply
ARod says
May 19, 2015 at 6:15 pm
i agree with you completely its about teaching them to follow rules there are rules everywhere in life
Noha says August 1, 2015 at 12:43 am Rules should be followed but not rules that are only enforced on one gender over the other. When has anyone ever seen a boy in shorts over the knee? And why can boys at my school wear tank tops but as soon as a girls hoodie slips off her shoulder she gets in trouble? Girls try to dress to be appropriate for the place they are in but when its boiling hot out and girls are sweating to death it makes it hard for us to learn. Why is a guys education more important than mine? I respect your opinion but i also wanted to put mine out there. Reply Wendy says August 6, 2015 at 6:01 pm Thanks for your comment. I agree that rules should be followed by BOTH sexes. I don’t know where you live, but here on the East Coast I don’t see many boys – actually ANY boys with shorts as short at that photo. I can’t think of the last time that I saw a boy with shorts 2 inches about his knee. Also, a boys education isn’t any more important than yours, but you are not any hotter in a tee shirt with short sleeves and shorts to your knees than a boy. I suggest that if your school rules say that there are no tank tops, then make sure you point out EVERYONE in a tank- boys and girls. Reply
Noha says
August 1, 2015 at 12:43 am
Rules should be followed but not rules that are only enforced on one gender over the other. When has anyone ever seen a boy in shorts over the knee? And why can boys at my school wear tank tops but as soon as a girls hoodie slips off her shoulder she gets in trouble? Girls try to dress to be appropriate for the place they are in but when its boiling hot out and girls are sweating to death it makes it hard for us to learn. Why is a guys education more important than mine? I respect your opinion but i also wanted to put mine out there.
Wendy says August 6, 2015 at 6:01 pm Thanks for your comment. I agree that rules should be followed by BOTH sexes. I don’t know where you live, but here on the East Coast I don’t see many boys – actually ANY boys with shorts as short at that photo. I can’t think of the last time that I saw a boy with shorts 2 inches about his knee. Also, a boys education isn’t any more important than yours, but you are not any hotter in a tee shirt with short sleeves and shorts to your knees than a boy. I suggest that if your school rules say that there are no tank tops, then make sure you point out EVERYONE in a tank- boys and girls. Reply
August 6, 2015 at 6:01 pm
Thanks for your comment. I agree that rules should be followed by BOTH sexes. I don’t know where you live, but here on the East Coast I don’t see many boys – actually ANY boys with shorts as short at that photo. I can’t think of the last time that I saw a boy with shorts 2 inches about his knee. Also, a boys education isn’t any more important than yours, but you are not any hotter in a tee shirt with short sleeves and shorts to your knees than a boy. I suggest that if your school rules say that there are no tank tops, then make sure you point out EVERYONE in a tank- boys and girls.
Kathy says May 7, 2016 at 7:17 pm You say that because you are old and I have a surprise, kids get hot in the summer and don’t deserve to be shamed. Its just sad when people support dress codes that teach shame. Also, height and arm length is a factor. Just saying, I’m a 6 ft tall gal and it is very hard to find “appropriate” length shorts. Male teachers send you to the office when they are the perverted ones! It is sick. Reply
Kathy says
May 7, 2016 at 7:17 pm
You say that because you are old and I have a surprise, kids get hot in the summer and don’t deserve to be shamed. Its just sad when people support dress codes that teach shame. Also, height and arm length is a factor. Just saying, I’m a 6 ft tall gal and it is very hard to find “appropriate” length shorts. Male teachers send you to the office when they are the perverted ones! It is sick.
CC says June 12, 2017 at 12:10 pm I don’t completely agree with this because at my school,the dress code is sexist. I got dress coded for wearing ripped jeans (with only two rips and they were at the knee) and I also got dress coded for wearing leggings (they were not skintight, and not see through at all) meanwhile a boy at my school wore leggings during school hours and nobody said a thing. A lot of the boys at my school break the length requirement of the shorts and nothing gets said but when a girl does it, she gets dress coded. Also, at my school many teachers go to the on campus gym during school hours wearing shorts and sports bras. Reply
CC says
June 12, 2017 at 12:10 pm
I don’t completely agree with this because at my school,the dress code is sexist. I got dress coded for wearing ripped jeans (with only two rips and they were at the knee) and I also got dress coded for wearing leggings (they were not skintight, and not see through at all) meanwhile a boy at my school wore leggings during school hours and nobody said a thing. A lot of the boys at my school break the length requirement of the shorts and nothing gets said but when a girl does it, she gets dress coded. Also, at my school many teachers go to the on campus gym during school hours wearing shorts and sports bras.
Mark says December 20, 2017 at 11:01 am Well said, I am really tired of the asinine argument that school dress codes are sexist. If anything they tend to give girls more latitude in areas like hair length, piercings, and showing a modest amount of shoulder than they allow boys. But other than that, boys and girls are required to cover the same areas of their bodies. I wish principals would avoid the “distraction” argument, and just emphasize the parity, and also emphasize that it is a school’s jobs to prepare students for the world, and at every job I’ve ever had, from waiting tables in high school to my professional job now, there were expectations for professional dress that were far more strict than any high school dress code. Reply
December 20, 2017 at 11:01 am
Well said, I am really tired of the asinine argument that school dress codes are sexist. If anything they tend to give girls more latitude in areas like hair length, piercings, and showing a modest amount of shoulder than they allow boys. But other than that, boys and girls are required to cover the same areas of their bodies. I wish principals would avoid the “distraction” argument, and just emphasize the parity, and also emphasize that it is a school’s jobs to prepare students for the world, and at every job I’ve ever had, from waiting tables in high school to my professional job now, there were expectations for professional dress that were far more strict than any high school dress code.
NO says July 5, 2018 at 5:59 pm So teachers looking at kids and deciding whether or not their clothes are ‘ok to sexualize’ & then punishing them for living their lives just to get them to conform to a dumb society that also excuses rape culture.. is something.. mothers should want? Reply Wendy says August 8, 2018 at 11:53 am I’m all for teaching kids that sometimes you have to follow the rules, whether you like it, or not. When they start a job, they’ll have to follow a dress code- that’s life! My job as a parent is to prepare my kids for Real Life, not one where you think you can buck the rules because you don’t want to follow them. Reply
NO says
July 5, 2018 at 5:59 pm
So teachers looking at kids and deciding whether or not their clothes are ‘ok to sexualize’ & then punishing them for living their lives just to get them to conform to a dumb society that also excuses rape culture.. is something.. mothers should want?
Wendy says August 8, 2018 at 11:53 am I’m all for teaching kids that sometimes you have to follow the rules, whether you like it, or not. When they start a job, they’ll have to follow a dress code- that’s life! My job as a parent is to prepare my kids for Real Life, not one where you think you can buck the rules because you don’t want to follow them. Reply
August 8, 2018 at 11:53 am
I’m all for teaching kids that sometimes you have to follow the rules, whether you like it, or not. When they start a job, they’ll have to follow a dress code- that’s life! My job as a parent is to prepare my kids for Real Life, not one where you think you can buck the rules because you don’t want to follow them.
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